I was dating a girl for a month or so. Kinda wierd; we went on a couple really long dates (w/sex), got coffee a few other time, and barely talked in the meantime. Short synopsis, she flaked twice between date numbers 1 and 2 but rescheduled herself, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. We are both really busy due to school and she also works. After date 2 she flaked one or two times and spoke to me a bit disrespectfully once (apologizing via text an hour after). I was tired of the flaking and I quit calling, following the advice of the board.
She texted a week and a half after I quit calling, something like, "What are you up to, stranger?" which I truthfully replied to that I was meeting some friends for drinks. She didn't respond, which I thought meant she was probably pissed. I kinda felt bad for her, so I texted her the next day saying, "Its a beautiful day outside! What are you up to?" She responded with the single word, "yep." I figured that was the end of it, but she texted again a few days later and we had a short, meaningless conversation, but no invites.
Here is what I don't get. After no contact at all for three weeks, I get what seems to be a mass text invite to go to a bar, saying "everyone is invited." This was about a week ago. Tonight, I got a similar message inviting me to a party of some sort. She didn't invite me to any group stuff while we were dating. What is her goal in this? Is she actually trying to hang out with me, but doesn't want to lose face by inviting me directly? Is she trying to show off by casually inviting me to things as if nothing happened and pointing out the fun things she is doing? This is confusing me. I generally don't like to be impolite, but should I just ignore these invites? Casually respond, but don't go? We hang out in the same places and I'll probably eventually run into her as a natural matter of course.
Disclosure: I haven't been spinning plates since I am too busy with finals (last three weeks of grad school). Went a little AFC while dating her, but not horrible. Done a few approaches since and might have a couple possibilities. I'm at home on a Saturday night because I have to finish a really important paper by tomorrow afternoon. Probably go somewhere tomorrow night.
She texted a week and a half after I quit calling, something like, "What are you up to, stranger?" which I truthfully replied to that I was meeting some friends for drinks. She didn't respond, which I thought meant she was probably pissed. I kinda felt bad for her, so I texted her the next day saying, "Its a beautiful day outside! What are you up to?" She responded with the single word, "yep." I figured that was the end of it, but she texted again a few days later and we had a short, meaningless conversation, but no invites.
Here is what I don't get. After no contact at all for three weeks, I get what seems to be a mass text invite to go to a bar, saying "everyone is invited." This was about a week ago. Tonight, I got a similar message inviting me to a party of some sort. She didn't invite me to any group stuff while we were dating. What is her goal in this? Is she actually trying to hang out with me, but doesn't want to lose face by inviting me directly? Is she trying to show off by casually inviting me to things as if nothing happened and pointing out the fun things she is doing? This is confusing me. I generally don't like to be impolite, but should I just ignore these invites? Casually respond, but don't go? We hang out in the same places and I'll probably eventually run into her as a natural matter of course.
Disclosure: I haven't been spinning plates since I am too busy with finals (last three weeks of grad school). Went a little AFC while dating her, but not horrible. Done a few approaches since and might have a couple possibilities. I'm at home on a Saturday night because I have to finish a really important paper by tomorrow afternoon. Probably go somewhere tomorrow night.