Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Because it's not superhuman, it's just human. However it is probably the closest you may get to touching God, or to dying without dying perhaps. (Can probably also be done through intense meditation, ayuhasca, adrenaline etc.)
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It is a worthwhile evolutionary function. Of course, it is a very valuable skill to learn, and it is nature's basis for reproduction, and it gives a man some sort of confidence, but putting it on a pedestal risks it to be perceived as something unattainable, as something godly, as something only a few can achieve, when we know most people can achieve it. Some men may also misunderstand the word and just find it the be-all end-all, and so they turn complacent in life, losing interest in any other worthwhile pursuit.
I don't know much about IUDs, but the method is still an artificial augmentation affecting the hormones in a naturally occurring bodily process.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've nutted inside about 10 women in the past couple of years. Many women have IUDs, if not, I either pull out + ovulation track. I dated a girl 2 years ago and raw dogged her every single time (probably about 50-60 times) and she wasn't on ANY BC and nothing happened. Granted, she was 32 so maybe she wasn't fertile. If I'm with a women under 23 I do still wrap it up until I know where she is in her cycle.
Over the years, the majority of the women I've had sex with were using some form of birth control at the time I was having sex with them.
I follow Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 about always using protection.
I never use condoms
Been doing this for 10 years if it was gonna happen it would have by now and i wouldn't be surprised if i'm shooting blanks by now anyway (hopefully).
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
