"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why do you do what you do?

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Master Don Juan
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I am going to answer your original question because I am not a motivational speaker.

Recipe for me to question my life purpose:
Take one highly motivated, high achieving person. Pre-prepare in college and graduate school for 4-10 years.

Take said person and place in mundane white collar existence for 6-12 months.

In my case college and graduate school was fun. There were sometimes I didn't realize it, but it was. It took me all of 1 year in a white collar job to realize I had to leave.

Some people realize this reality earlier, some realize it later. But eventually most realize the reality that all the lofty goals that were set for us, either by ourselves or by others, are meaningless.

White collar america is a joke. The amount of people that a company really needs to function is a minute fraction of what is truly employed. Most of us are worth more to the economy as consumers than we are as employees.

This is why the only choice is what we love. My personal goal in life is to make my life as good as it can be. That means if some portion of my life is unacceptable I change that.

I have the best job in the world for me, I am a professor at a university. I teach and do research. I am not the best researcher in my field, far from it. But I don't even care to be. My goal is to understand my field as best I can. WHY? Because learning brings me joy. It brings me happiness. No one else may care about the things I am learning about, but I care.

In contrast when I was working in industry, other people cared about what I was doing but I thought it was a waste of time.

What I am getting at is this . . . A life purpose is primarily about YOU!

DO what brings you joy. If what brings you joy is going to a "dead-end" job and going home to watch TV, then do it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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