"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why do you do what you do?

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Master Don Juan
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I am going to answer your original question because I am not a motivational speaker.

Recipe for me to question my life purpose:
Take one highly motivated, high achieving person. Pre-prepare in college and graduate school for 4-10 years.

Take said person and place in mundane white collar existence for 6-12 months.

In my case college and graduate school was fun. There were sometimes I didn't realize it, but it was. It took me all of 1 year in a white collar job to realize I had to leave.

Some people realize this reality earlier, some realize it later. But eventually most realize the reality that all the lofty goals that were set for us, either by ourselves or by others, are meaningless.

White collar america is a joke. The amount of people that a company really needs to function is a minute fraction of what is truly employed. Most of us are worth more to the economy as consumers than we are as employees.

This is why the only choice is what we love. My personal goal in life is to make my life as good as it can be. That means if some portion of my life is unacceptable I change that.

I have the best job in the world for me, I am a professor at a university. I teach and do research. I am not the best researcher in my field, far from it. But I don't even care to be. My goal is to understand my field as best I can. WHY? Because learning brings me joy. It brings me happiness. No one else may care about the things I am learning about, but I care.

In contrast when I was working in industry, other people cared about what I was doing but I thought it was a waste of time.

What I am getting at is this . . . A life purpose is primarily about YOU!

DO what brings you joy. If what brings you joy is going to a "dead-end" job and going home to watch TV, then do it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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