"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why do yall assume the girl is ****** another guy if she's playing games
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PapiChulo
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Don't let a woman think she has you. :nono:
A woman who is interested in you and who wants you will find a way to get you.
Show me a man on this board who hasn't been cheated on and I'll show you a NBA player who has trouble getting laid.
Women always have options. Call it what you want, but they know the game very well. :nervous:
Case closed. Roll with it. :box:
Iceberg
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"An egotistical person's self-worth is driven by external factors -- primarily feedback from others. A person with high self-esteem's sense of self-worth is determined by internal factors such as passion, belief or personal vision.“
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But something like texting I feel is no big deal if they don't answer for a little while, although I will say if it's several hours and then they text back without explaining the absence I too wonder if they're hanging out with people (not necessarily cheating) but it's a little fishy if they're absent for 4 hours and then text back continuing the old conversation.