Serenity
Moderator
Why do men cheat? It's the same story.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm telling you man, having options can change a person so easily. I'm having options now and I can see how you can let it get to you. I don't have the number of options as women, I generally float around 2-3, but that feeling of simply no way of losing is just mind blowing. Its hard to explain it but there is a reason why people advocate spinning plates/having options. Just don't let it get to your head is all I'm gonna say.El Payaso said:Lol. Whatever you say, youngin.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think culture is enabling hypergamy. I think part of the issue comes down the fact that divorce almost always unfairly punishes the man so there is no punitive consequence for cheating if you are a woman.PeasantPlayer said:Anyone else getting annoying when people answer with "they cheat because our culture promotes it" Seems like it implies women would never cheat or cheat as much if it wasn't for our culture which have no evidence. Maybe women cheat for the same reason men cheat? I understand what you are saying about culture, but people act like women would be angels if our "culture" was not the way it is now
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.