"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why do we fear rejection? Why do we fear failure?

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I have never seen more stupid and ignorant answers in my entire life.

Do this and do that. Are you all idiots?

No. You don't have to do a single thing in your entire life.

First of all, the only fear there ever arises is because our clinginess. What are we clinging to? Our ideas of being a certain person, ideas o being a certain man; our ego. For example, you will not fear rejection if you don't expect to have a certain outcome. You expect to success, you expect to be a man who can have girls chasing you. There is not a single fear in life. It is all your own imagination. You fear death because of hell and because of your money, respect, value, fame and all that bull****. What are you doing gaining values and respect, fame and so on? You will lose them all anyways. And your death will be much more of a suffering than of an ordinary, humble, innocent human being. But your stupid ego likes it very much. The ego is the most stupid thing in our life, yet we cling to it like it is a gold cave. Can you see how stupid you are? What are you trying to do here, right at this forum? Let me tell you: the most stupid thing in this entire life. Not only in tis life but in the entire history of human kind.

The only thing they teach you here is simply just to drown you more in fear. They teach how to b a man! And that is the biggest ego you will ever get. The ego of a man is much more worse than of a woman. They teach to drop your ego by he they say to accomplish respect, money, fame, power. If that is not ego trip then what is? They say be a man.

If you drop your ego, ideas, and if you no longer care for fame, respect, money and power, you will no longer have any fear. How can you? You no longer worry whetever you lose something or no.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Peaks&Valleys

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instantnoodles said:
Oh poor you. I feel sorry for you :cry:


You just stood up and went back to class? Damn chump/AFC move. I'm trying to help you become a better man! Neg her brainz out if you ever share the same class. She forgets to do her homework? Neg her infront of the whole class! Listen to me, I'm a girl and I know most girls don't have much self-respect for themselves because of their low self-esteem. She'll eventually want your validation and will be drooling all over her if you teach her a lesson :crackup:

I always pick and choose carefully the females I want as friends in my life. I don't want a snake-a$$ or a jealous B****. Quality friends are worthy to me ONLY.

Just shutup and go out there, kick her ego. Why do you think rejection to me is nothing? Turn it around. In seconds, I was negging one of those guys who have the car and tattoo and thinks he's Jonny from Grease. He was so offended. Not to mention he tried to make it up by 'offering me a date'. Ouff :nervous:

Then I told him I was taken and skipped off to work. What a great day.
I don't know how much good "negging" a girl in front of the entire class would be. It didn't sound like she attacked in personally in front of anyone. If that were to happen, then yeah, clown away.

Some annoying chick talking herself up and talking $hit about people behind their backs. Depending on the situation, I might get involved, but I feel it's best just to back out, leave her in her own misery. Indifference. Why should Hobbit give two $hits about this girl? Or lower himself to her level.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I don't know how much good "negging" a girl in front of the entire class would be. It didn't sound like she attacked in personally in front of anyone. If that were to happen, then yeah, clown away.

Some annoying chick talking herself up and talking $hit about people behind their backs. Depending on the situation, I might get involved, but I feel it's best just to back out, leave her in her own misery. Indifference. Why should Hobbit give two $hits about this girl? Or lower himself to her level.

Well neg her and then incorporate indifference as she warms up to you :up:

Plus he seems intimidated by her Ego, which he shouldn't be. I don't ever cower below someone's ego. Everyone has an Ego but a BIG Ego is like a poison of their own - intoxicating their body/mind
 

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Well neg her and then incorporate indifference as she warms up to you :up:
That's usually how it works.....or instead of a "neg" some type of teasing.

Plus he seems intimidated by her Ego, which he shouldn't be.
True indifference is this. Not caring. Walking away with a smile on your face because it's like watching kids play on the playground VS. walking away because something they said effected you emotionally.

Everyone has an Ego but a BIG Ego is like a poison of their own - intoxicating their body/mind
Someone who has to constantly win....and brags about turning down 30 guys and then calls them beta faggot chumps? Yes, that person's ego needs to be put in check. Or not, I don't really care ;)
 

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Thomson said:
I have never seen more stupid and ignorant answers in my entire life.

Do this and do that. Are you all idiots?

No. You don't have to do a single thing in your entire life.

First of all, the only fear there ever arises is because our clinginess. What are we clinging to? Our ideas of being a certain person, ideas o being a certain man; our ego. For example, you will not fear rejection if you don't expect to have a certain outcome. You expect to success, you expect to be a man who can have girls chasing you. There is not a single fear in life. It is all your own imagination. You fear death because of hell and because of your money, respect, value, fame and all that bull****. What are you doing gaining values and respect, fame and so on? You will lose them all anyways. And your death will be much more of a suffering than of an ordinary, humble, innocent human being. But your stupid ego likes it very much. The ego is the most stupid thing in our life, yet we cling to it like it is a gold cave. Can you see how stupid you are? What are you trying to do here, right at this forum? Let me tell you: the most stupid thing in this entire life. Not only in tis life but in the entire history of human kind.

The only thing they teach you here is simply just to drown you more in fear. They teach how to b a man! And that is the biggest ego you will ever get. The ego of a man is much more worse than of a woman. They teach to drop your ego by he they say to accomplish respect, money, fame, power. If that is not ego trip then what is? They say be a man.

If you drop your ego, ideas, and if you no longer care for fame, respect, money and power, you will no longer have any fear. How can you? You no longer worry whetever you lose something or no.
This.

And I'm sure you were an idiot once too.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Used to rejection, used to failure, so I don't fear any of these things. I take things in my stride and I try and use every rejection and failure as motivation to climb back on the saddle and go at it again.
 
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