"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do we defeat ourselves?

fresh_to_death

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The short of it: Me and another dude are checking out this engineer's ass(young , hot ass chick) that showed up at our work location. We service gas wells, aka oilfield work, in the middle of BFE and it was a shock that this engineer was not some old, grizzled, balding man.

While checking her out from a distance this complete tool shed walks up to us and asks if we are looking at her. He continues his inquiry by saying very loudly, almost yelling(so that maybe she heard?), that she is way out of our league and then proceeds to preach about how women are smarter, and that she is super smart and wouldn't want anything to do with us dummies, she is cultured, blah, blah, ****ing blah... LOL @ HIM. This conversation carried on for about 20 minutes as I tried to explain to him that her and her types are nothing special while he vehemently defended his position. I wanted to slap him.

I know this has been discussed to death here, but why do guys do this bull**** to themselves? I can't even BEGIN to reason why or how a grown man would convince himself that another human being is better than him. WTF is "Out of your league"? DOES NOT COMPUTE. That phrase should be stricken from the English language. For all he knew, by her being an engineer, or working towards being a full blown engineer, she has probably never had a b/f, let alone been kissed by a guy.

I've ****ed chicks who dropped out of HS and I've ****ed chicks who had their masters. It's all the same. Everything between the initial meeting and boning her in the bed is just smoke screen.

Oh well, this just was a small rant, lol.

/rant :woo:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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PrinceBeavis

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What's worse is the danger of a jack-ball like that getting you guys fired over a sexual harassment policy.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Because it's easier to claim that it's something that you have no control over ***cough***looks threads***cough*** rather than making personal changes. It's the path of least resistance especially when there's no chance of getting rejected. You cant lose if you don't play.
 

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While checking her out from a distance this complete tool shed walks up to us and asks if we are looking at her. He continues his inquiry by saying very loudly, almost yelling(so that maybe she heard?), that she is way out of our league and then proceeds to preach about how women are smarter, and that she is super smart and wouldn't want anything to do with us dummies, she is cultured, blah, blah, ****ing blah... LOL @ HIM.
I bet this whole charade was a passive-aggressive attempt by said tool shed to impress the girl.
 

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When some drunk moron get her pregnant, then you can make fun of how cultured she is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MooseGod

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I agree that a lot of people like to focus only on the negatives in life. There's a lot of stuff you can't change in life, but there's a lot that you can--yourself. Adapt to/re-frame the situation. Live in the moment.

But I digress...did you hit that or what?
 
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