"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why do we defeat ourselves?

fresh_to_death

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The short of it: Me and another dude are checking out this engineer's ass(young , hot ass chick) that showed up at our work location. We service gas wells, aka oilfield work, in the middle of BFE and it was a shock that this engineer was not some old, grizzled, balding man.

While checking her out from a distance this complete tool shed walks up to us and asks if we are looking at her. He continues his inquiry by saying very loudly, almost yelling(so that maybe she heard?), that she is way out of our league and then proceeds to preach about how women are smarter, and that she is super smart and wouldn't want anything to do with us dummies, she is cultured, blah, blah, ****ing blah... LOL @ HIM. This conversation carried on for about 20 minutes as I tried to explain to him that her and her types are nothing special while he vehemently defended his position. I wanted to slap him.

I know this has been discussed to death here, but why do guys do this bull**** to themselves? I can't even BEGIN to reason why or how a grown man would convince himself that another human being is better than him. WTF is "Out of your league"? DOES NOT COMPUTE. That phrase should be stricken from the English language. For all he knew, by her being an engineer, or working towards being a full blown engineer, she has probably never had a b/f, let alone been kissed by a guy.

I've ****ed chicks who dropped out of HS and I've ****ed chicks who had their masters. It's all the same. Everything between the initial meeting and boning her in the bed is just smoke screen.

Oh well, this just was a small rant, lol.

/rant :woo:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PrinceBeavis

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What's worse is the danger of a jack-ball like that getting you guys fired over a sexual harassment policy.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Because it's easier to claim that it's something that you have no control over ***cough***looks threads***cough*** rather than making personal changes. It's the path of least resistance especially when there's no chance of getting rejected. You cant lose if you don't play.
 

Ol'BlueEyes

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While checking her out from a distance this complete tool shed walks up to us and asks if we are looking at her. He continues his inquiry by saying very loudly, almost yelling(so that maybe she heard?), that she is way out of our league and then proceeds to preach about how women are smarter, and that she is super smart and wouldn't want anything to do with us dummies, she is cultured, blah, blah, ****ing blah... LOL @ HIM.
I bet this whole charade was a passive-aggressive attempt by said tool shed to impress the girl.
 

SXS

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When some drunk moron get her pregnant, then you can make fun of how cultured she is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MooseGod

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I agree that a lot of people like to focus only on the negatives in life. There's a lot of stuff you can't change in life, but there's a lot that you can--yourself. Adapt to/re-frame the situation. Live in the moment.

But I digress...did you hit that or what?
 
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