"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why do so many women complain about online dating?
- Thread starter bigdave17
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I suppose you can always test the water lightly at first and if she blows you out or is not responsive, then you just walk away
The most ironic aspect of this whole thing is selling cars and picking up women are very very similar and I might be the best car salesman in Illinois. I guess the difference is that I don't get care if I hear a no at work, but I have a lot more anxiety/fear when it comes to approaching women.
I'm also very defeatist with women and feel like they're never interested in meeting anybody and I would annoy them to death if I approached them. That's the biggest thing that kills me - I feel totally hopeless
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Soflobro#3
Banned
- Joined
- May 17, 2018
- Messages
- 722
- Reaction score
- 263
- Age
- 31
Then just go sit in a coffee shop or something and wait for one to fall into your lap.
Roober
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 2, 2016
- Messages
- 2,372
- Reaction score
- 2,120
Theres also likely a big difference in paying for the service or using freebies. I remember a guy who met his wife on eharmony. And he made a good point, that people are paying so they have some skin in the game, they are more likely looking to meet up and move things forward. I believe even @Amante Silvestre attests to this.
Think about it, the free sites or unpaid services, anyone can create a profile in less than 5 minutes. People can do this on their lunch breaks, when they feel distant from their partner, or at any time they want. People are much less likely to drop 30+ bucks and not seek to get something back for their money...
Think about it, the free sites or unpaid services, anyone can create a profile in less than 5 minutes. People can do this on their lunch breaks, when they feel distant from their partner, or at any time they want. People are much less likely to drop 30+ bucks and not seek to get something back for their money...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lol I doubt that will ever happen with somebody who fits my incredibly specific taste
I have to be honest with myself
Soflobro#3
Banned
- Joined
- May 17, 2018
- Messages
- 722
- Reaction score
- 263
- Age
- 31
There's no other way
there are so many incredibly hot women at my gym. God I wish I could talk to them
There was one today - cute face, dark features (although she was white), big round bubble butt, athletic, legs. Fukk me, I almost crashed my car when I saw her walk outside the gym
I just dunno wtf to say that wouldn't make me come across as incredibly awkward or the typical gym douchebag. In my head, anything I say will make me sound like a loser and she's not in market to meet anybody anyways
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
You are a catch.
the comment about Armenian men is more about them being butt ass ugly
holy f*ck, the women are sooooooooo much better looking than the men in our culture. All the way from 25 until about 80. The women have beautiful skin that ages great (much better than white peoples) but the men usually lose all their hair and end up looking old, **** I started losing hair at 25 - I Just got a transplant done to take me back to having near perfect hair. I'm on finnasteride/rogaine/nizoral to make sure I keep my hair long term. My dad was totally bald by my age
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Soflobro#3
Banned
- Joined
- May 17, 2018
- Messages
- 722
- Reaction score
- 263
- Age
- 31
As your walking past just wink at her, smile, point your i index finger at her with your thumb vertical and say "what dat booty do" like a baller.
Dave,
One of my long time friends is Armenian via Lebanon. Probably looks the same as you had money and he did well. His brother absolutely slayed. He had 9s stalking him.
Being exotic is only a bad thing if you do not embrace it. Sure, there will be certain women who will simply rule you out based on your look, but how is that any different than a woman that shuts down a white guy because she’s not attracted to him.
Your issue is self-limiting doubt.
If you never get nasty rejections it means you aren’t being aggressive enough.
Stop worrying about one specific girl and meet all sorts of girls.
Getting attactive women isn’t trying to get them but rather them trying to get you.
It comes down to who demonstrates more value.
If there is a 9 hiding in a group of 7 get in with the girl who is vibing you and play with her in a friendly manner to have her be your pivot and open the nine for you.
These are the things you learn from going out an approaching over and over again and seeing what works for you and what doesn’t.
One of my long time friends is Armenian via Lebanon. Probably looks the same as you had money and he did well. His brother absolutely slayed. He had 9s stalking him.
Being exotic is only a bad thing if you do not embrace it. Sure, there will be certain women who will simply rule you out based on your look, but how is that any different than a woman that shuts down a white guy because she’s not attracted to him.
Your issue is self-limiting doubt.
If you never get nasty rejections it means you aren’t being aggressive enough.
Stop worrying about one specific girl and meet all sorts of girls.
Getting attactive women isn’t trying to get them but rather them trying to get you.
It comes down to who demonstrates more value.
If there is a 9 hiding in a group of 7 get in with the girl who is vibing you and play with her in a friendly manner to have her be your pivot and open the nine for you.
These are the things you learn from going out an approaching over and over again and seeing what works for you and what doesn’t.
my ethnicity should be no issue considering I'm going after women preferably about as dark as I am
I don't really care for light skin white girls. Tend to be skinny/flat and tend to age poorly. Armenian girls for example always have great ass and tits, beautiful darker skin, thick dark hair, etc....
Soflobro#3
Banned
- Joined
- May 17, 2018
- Messages
- 722
- Reaction score
- 263
- Age
- 31
Dave just admit it you're trolling all of us right now.
Oh did you now
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.