You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
fat typically = unhealthy. It doesn't take societal conditioning to weed out unhealthy people.bigjohnson said:It's just western societal conditioning.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
speakeasy said:I think tastes vary from generation to generation as far as weight, but one thing remains a constaint, and that's the right hip to waist ratio. A woman can be large or small, but if she has that .7 hip to waist ratio, I'll think she's sexy as hell.
You want a woman who looks like a manatee?Kev07 said:This might be a winner.
For me, as long as the woman isn't jiggling all over, looks like a manatee, and has that decent hip to waist ratio, she's a winner
Someone should tell a bunch of women that.Master Bates said:^ All those women are still within the range of "fit". There's a difference between vuluptuous and overweight.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,st_99 said:This thread actually makes me think about a causal friend of mine who is engaged to a fat chick.
When a guy marries a fat girl, does that mean he doesnt think that highly of himself in terms of being able to land a normal weight girl?
This guy is not fat be he's kind of dorky although he dresses well. He just has a choir boy innocent image about him.
I don't know, I just want to know what goes through somebodys head when they decide they want to marry an obese chick because
I would have to be single for a loooooooooooooooooong time before I start looking in that direction
rrrrr said:Marilyn Monroe trumps Kate Moss any day of the week. I like voluptuous women with big boobs and as long as she's not fat I'm fine. I don't care so much about the butt. However when there's a skinny girl who takes care of herself and is thin and shapely that's awesome too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.