Why do men fall in love faster than women?

[ThisNThat]

Biology and mating strategy which evolved over time and is in our DNA.

Men can determine suitability of a mate visually. If she looks good, that is all we need, if a women looks healthy and attractive... that's it, we are good to go.

Good point, it doesn't take much...sometimes as long as she's not overweight, that's enough. lol Considering we live in highly obese nation.

Women... selecting a suitable mate, has more to do with the ability of the male to provide and protect her and her spawn. How a man looks is secondary to that need. It takes time for a woman to figure out if you are suitable.

Would this apply to older people dating, considering women in their 40s and 50s will no longer be able to provide spawn...ya know...menopause and all that.

The tools she uses is:

(1) Do you appear to be in demand with other women? If other chicks like you then this is a good indication that you might be a good catch. Women also work as a collective mind. They always have to check in with the 'girls network'.

Demand as in highly desirable in a romantic fashion or you have a bunch of female friends that enjoy your company? Or is it the same either way? I'm typically the latter, and hey, that can open up opportunities to be introduced so other single friends.

A lot of guys come on here wondering what happened after the first couple of dates that went well, then suddenly the chick goes cold... many times the chick checked in with the 'girls network' and you did not pass.

Highly unlikely, as this would only apply if the woman you dated actually were friends with the other women. Most cases, guys wind up dating those that are out of their social network. Chances are they found someone better, or wasn't feeling a connection.

(2) Do you act like a man with things going on? Most men have absolutely no idea how important this is to women. If you are busy with business and hobbies and many friends this is the second most important thing you can do. This is a strong indicator that you will be an effective provider because if you have lots of people who like you, there will be many willing to give you things. If you are too available, then this is a turn off for her.

This is a no brainer, obviously it's good that one has a life.

(3) Do you look good and are you physically fit? A well dressed man indicates a guy that has it together, and if he is not in shape, he can't protect anything.

This helps, but I've seen scruffy, fat slobs with women as equally as they are in the looks department. Funny thing is, some overweight/not-so-attractive women, plain janes...still want the Tom Brady's of the world. Yeah...good luck with that. lol

(4) Do you find her physically attractive? Women know their principle tool to keep a dude is her body and attractiveness. She has to know you want to fvck her, otherwise she will not think she can keep you and will not even try.

Again, no brainer.

 

[Trainwreck]

Again, this goes back to my "When a girl says she's' single" topic. Just because she doesn't love you doesn't mean she's getting wet over some other guy. Women always have another backup guy or in an informal no strings relationship with another guy. After high school, it becomes extremely hard to find a girl that's is emotionally single because they aren't blasted with orbiters or a network yet. This girl near me just got divorced and next day she's talking about how she met this hot cop. Girls just have mastered the game while men are too busy backstabbing each other and practicing non-efficient tactics on women.

 

[MatureDJ]

Yeah, I remember one woman trying to size me up as a potential home improvement guy for help around her house. She's a single woman that should be living in apartment as far as I'm concern, because she told me she can't handle all the landscaping upkeep since she had it put all in. We were on a date and I felt like she was seeing me as a more utilitarian need than actually LIKING me.

Well, as long as she is providing the "plumbing" service of cleaning your pipes in return, I don't see a problem.

 

[bigneil]

Good point, it doesn't take much...sometimes as long as she's not overweight, that's enough. lol Considering we live in highly obese nation.



Would this apply to older people dating, considering women in their 40s and 50s will no longer be able to provide spawn...ya know...menopause and all that.

The tools she uses is:



Demand as in highly desirable in a romantic fashion or you have a bunch of female friends that enjoy your company? Or is it the same either way? I'm typically the latter, and hey, that can open up opportunities to be introduced so other single friends.



Highly unlikely, as this would only apply if the woman you dated actually were friends with the other women. Most cases, guys wind up dating those that are out of their social network. Chances are they found someone better, or wasn't feeling a connection.



This is a no brainer, obviously it's good that one has a life.



This helps, but I've seen scruffy, fat slobs with women as equally as they are in the looks department. Funny thing is, some overweight/not-so-attractive women, plain janes...still want the Tom Brady's of the world. Yeah...good luck with that. lol



Again, no brainer.

ThisNThat, thank you for acknowledging that you at least read RangerMike's 100% truthful b!tchslap of reality to your face of denial. But you are right: even fat girls don't want average or below average men, so get to work.

 

[ThisNThat]

ThisNThat, thank you for acknowledging that you at least read RangerMike's 100% truthful b!tchslap of reality to your face of denial. But you are right: even fat girls don't want average or below average men, so get to work.

Nah, all that work ain't worth a fat chick. lol These women need to lay off the fast food and eating out to get MY attention. Getting tired of looking at these Jabba-the-hutt-sized women.

 

[marmel75]

lack of options

Exactly. When you lack options any option you get becomes of extreme importance

 

[QuadDeuces]

I disagree.
Women fall in love sooner, for a man it takes a lot longer to go from lust to love.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Men aren't falling in "love", in fact I'd say most people don't even know what love is.

Approximately 80% of the time when people say they're in love it's really infatuation. For men, the infatuation comes from the d!ck...most men can't control this.

Personally, I don't think love (in a relationship) is an emotion, I think it is something someone has to do proactively and something that has to happen over time.

 

[BeExcellent]

"Male desire is a rather simple proposition; it’s on or off, and the switch is pulled within a second of visual inspection of the woman’s face and body.

A woman’s attraction is not a switch; it’s a burner that can burn hotter or colder depending on the skill of the man turning the knob.

Women simply aren’t wired in the same way as men. Female arousal oscillates on a spectrum from fleeting curiosity to uncontrollable splooging."

I'm pleased to remain on the "ignore" list, but this needs to acknowledged as truth from the ladies' locker room.

 

[bigneil]

Men and women both desire different things, therefore they experience love differently.

We need to think of a man and woman as a family unit. They both want what optimizes the family unit. A family unit requires vast resources along with fertility. The woman seeks resources and the man seeks fertility.

Nowadays we have a bunch of women wearing shoulder pads and she-males trying to say men should be pretty and women should not care about resources.

Men love women and women love resources. Expecting a woman to love a man just for the sake of love itself is like asking a nest to build a bird. Women who tried love for the sake of love itself settled for lesser men and thus didn't have as many children and went extinct ages ago (along with those men who couldn't earn enough).

 

[Urbanyst]

Men and women both desire different things, therefore they experience love differently.

We need to think of a man and woman as a family unit. They both want what optimizes the family unit. A family unit requires vast resources along with fertility. The woman seeks resources and the man seeks fertility.

Nowadays we have a bunch of women wearing shoulder pads and she-males trying to say men should be pretty and women should not care about resources.

Men love women and women love resources. Expecting a woman to love a man just for the sake of love itself is like asking a nest to build a bird. Women who tried love for the sake of love itself settled for lesser men and thus didn't have as many children and went extinct ages ago (along with those men who couldn't earn enough).

Women care about good genes too.

I honestly think all the love stuff is bogus media hype. It started in fictional books as a form of entertainment. As usual.. some people cannot separate fantasy from reality. In the real world survival and reproducing depends on your ability to be practical and make sound decisions that help your thrive. This goes for both genders.

Women choose their partners more for practical, social and genetic reasons than for sentimental ones. Men choose partners based on sex appeal and good genetics. The people who buy into the love stuff are the ones who end up bitter because they don't realize dating is a practical matter.

This is why I love money. It is one of the most practical tools a man can have.

 

[nismo-4]

We all know that if a woman goes cold after one or two dates, you f**ked up by:

1. Not being better than her other options
2. Failing to outperform her exes
3. Not being attractive/ assertive/ alpha enough
4. Failure to have chemistry
5. Being too available or too aloof

The only other reason which wouldn't be your fault is you two want different things i.e. you are aggressive and want sex by your actions, but she just wants a new beta orbiter.

Men love women. Women just love what a man can do for them at the time. That's why interest is such a fleeting issue.

 

[ThisNThat]

We all know that if a woman goes cold after one or two dates, you f**ked up by:

1. Not being better than her other options
2. Failing to outperform her exes
3. Not being attractive/ assertive/ alpha enough
4. Failure to have chemistry
5. Being too available or too aloof

The only other reason which wouldn't be your fault is you two want different things i.e. you are aggressive and want sex by your actions, but she just wants a new beta orbiter.

Men love women. Women just love what a man can do for them at the time. That's why interest is such a fleeting issue.

What's this got to do with the original post?

 

[Alvafe]

Men and women both desire different things, therefore they experience love differently.

We need to think of a man and woman as a family unit. They both want what optimizes the family unit. A family unit requires vast resources along with fertility. The woman seeks resources and the man seeks fertility.

Nowadays we have a bunch of women wearing shoulder pads and she-males trying to say men should be pretty and women should not care about resources.

Men love women and women love resources. Expecting a woman to love a man just for the sake of love itself is like asking a nest to build a bird. Women who tried love for the sake of love itself settled for lesser men and thus didn't have as many children and went extinct ages ago (along with those men who couldn't earn enough).

if this was true we wouldn't have poor people, and it wouldn't be like poor people having like 5-6 kids when the ones with college and making over 70k year have 1-2 if any, the numbers and what happens don't hit what you are saying

i'm the only one here who think its not like men fall faster is just men are not used to fake about it, plus you need to pursue the woman (least at start) if you depend on her do the first move well, that is what friendzone means. and remember is only lets hit the brakes, if she don't care about him much, is only creep she don't find the guy hot