"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do i seem to lose all my options in 1 day literally 24 hours?

drift king

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This happens a lot. I go sarging, i get numbers, i call them up, we may meet up for a date. Or i get numbers, i contact them all, i get some replies some none. Or i get numbers, i go out with girls, make out, escalate, almost to sex. contact them again, it's over, no reply.

But when i have a bunch of numbers, and say for instance it's over with 1 plate who i have been intimate with or made out, why is it on the same day i lose ALL my options? it's like they know it's over with my other plate and they all decide to ditch me.

For the record, im not calling them so they can't tell im nervous, i'm usually sending texts to meet up for a date (mainly cos if i've lost a plate i'll feel nervous on the phone so it's counter productive) my texts are no different than the texts i send when im on a roll, basically setting up dates, nothing more or less.

Does anyone else have this happen to them? It doesn't matter if i have 3-4 or 5-6, somehow i end up losing them all at the same time and am back to zero. I may get replies but they'll be 'i'll let u know.' or 'i'm not sure i'll let u know' or just plain no response at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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garruk

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this "happens" to me too. its just a frame of mind.

one plate goes up in smoke and you start to feel more desperate.. pushing others away too.
 

st_99

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i agree that a lot of things when it comes to chicks is simply a 'frame of mine'

you mentioned being nervous, that probably has a lot to do with it. you're most likely just not convinced that you are 'the man' and these girls should be begging to be with you. no worries though, evenutally you'll get there.
 

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st_99 said:
i agree that a lot of things when it comes to chicks is simply a 'frame of mine'

you mentioned being nervous, that probably has a lot to do with it. you're most likely just not convinced that you are 'the man' and these girls should be begging to be with you. no worries though, evenutally you'll get there.
yeah but what i mean is i'm TEXTING them so they can't tell i'm nervous or desperate cos the texts i send are carbon copies of the texts i send when setting up dates when I am doing well so that can't be it.. it's like they know at that time i'm texting or whatever i'm in desperate mode. it's like they can sense it. or the universe is conspiring against me on that particular day. lol

i just dont follow why it happens in the same 24 hours.. i've learnt now that if i get say 3 numbers, and i try 2 on 1 day and it fails i dont call the other 1 and leave it for another day. i sometimes sense im having a bad day so put off contacting my new plates just in case.. however it ends up i dont contact them till way after im suppose to which has it's negatives too.

what do you think it is that makes them sense i'm desperate? like i said, my texts are exactly the same as the 1s i send when things are going good. it's like a template.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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