"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why do i seem to lose all my options in 1 day literally 24 hours?

drift king

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This happens a lot. I go sarging, i get numbers, i call them up, we may meet up for a date. Or i get numbers, i contact them all, i get some replies some none. Or i get numbers, i go out with girls, make out, escalate, almost to sex. contact them again, it's over, no reply.

But when i have a bunch of numbers, and say for instance it's over with 1 plate who i have been intimate with or made out, why is it on the same day i lose ALL my options? it's like they know it's over with my other plate and they all decide to ditch me.

For the record, im not calling them so they can't tell im nervous, i'm usually sending texts to meet up for a date (mainly cos if i've lost a plate i'll feel nervous on the phone so it's counter productive) my texts are no different than the texts i send when im on a roll, basically setting up dates, nothing more or less.

Does anyone else have this happen to them? It doesn't matter if i have 3-4 or 5-6, somehow i end up losing them all at the same time and am back to zero. I may get replies but they'll be 'i'll let u know.' or 'i'm not sure i'll let u know' or just plain no response at all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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garruk

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this "happens" to me too. its just a frame of mind.

one plate goes up in smoke and you start to feel more desperate.. pushing others away too.
 

st_99

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i agree that a lot of things when it comes to chicks is simply a 'frame of mine'

you mentioned being nervous, that probably has a lot to do with it. you're most likely just not convinced that you are 'the man' and these girls should be begging to be with you. no worries though, evenutally you'll get there.
 

drift king

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st_99 said:
i agree that a lot of things when it comes to chicks is simply a 'frame of mine'

you mentioned being nervous, that probably has a lot to do with it. you're most likely just not convinced that you are 'the man' and these girls should be begging to be with you. no worries though, evenutally you'll get there.
yeah but what i mean is i'm TEXTING them so they can't tell i'm nervous or desperate cos the texts i send are carbon copies of the texts i send when setting up dates when I am doing well so that can't be it.. it's like they know at that time i'm texting or whatever i'm in desperate mode. it's like they can sense it. or the universe is conspiring against me on that particular day. lol

i just dont follow why it happens in the same 24 hours.. i've learnt now that if i get say 3 numbers, and i try 2 on 1 day and it fails i dont call the other 1 and leave it for another day. i sometimes sense im having a bad day so put off contacting my new plates just in case.. however it ends up i dont contact them till way after im suppose to which has it's negatives too.

what do you think it is that makes them sense i'm desperate? like i said, my texts are exactly the same as the 1s i send when things are going good. it's like a template.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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