"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why do I have SO MANY female friends?

nightcrawler

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I've always wanted to have friends (female ones in particular) and I can't make one to safe my life. The minute I start treating them like friends they ignore me completely and give me the cold shoulder:down:

Maybe I look too threading...I can't even make male friends :(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mad Manic

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muhuwahaha said:
I've always wanted to have friends (female ones in particular) and I can't make one to safe my life. The minute I start treating them like friends they ignore me completely and give me the cold shoulder:down:

Maybe I look too threading...I can't even make male friends :(
Yes same, I think I'm better at the sexual and dominant stuff than the 'making friends' stuff. Don't have the problem of being seen in the wrong light by a girl (or guy) but friendships are very important too. All the guys I know in relationships with fitties do it through a great social circle.

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"Disagreed. Be an a$$hole about it unless they agree to sleep with you. Period. You dont need leeches in your life, there are too many women out there. You dont need women "friends" to be successful socially."

Disagreed about your disagreement lol.

Chicks will only get a rise out of knowing they got to you by you being an assh0le to them. It makes them feel validated and important. You don't want to give them that power or ego boost so if you must cut some chicks out of your life simply slipping away and going no contact is for the best.

My advice advocates he consider and find out if he can get anything from these women of value first such as social proof, invites to parties, setting him up with a hot friend of theirs or whatever and if they prove to be worthless to such an end as one of these or something else he might find of value then and only then should he cut the "leeches" out of his life.

See I agree with you that leeches are bad for your health and need to be cut off from your blood supply before they suck the very life out of you but until he makes the evaluation that they are leeches with nothing more to offer him than syphoning off good things from him while offering him absolutely nothing in return well I just have to say until that determination is made your advice is flawed.

For this reason and the reason I gave about not wanting to reward a girl's lack of interest towards you with an AFC emotional assh0le angry outburst.

Your point about not needing chicks or even these particular chicks to be successful is a valid one as there can be a lot of benefit to completely starting a new as a DJ and standing on your own but at the same time the alternative is equally valid ie don't cut off a good potential resource or resources until you have deemed they are not resources at all.
 

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There's one thing I will never forget: women hate other women. You do something to make them think another woman is coming between you and the group, at least on will start having feelings for you because an outsider is around. Another thing for the future is to not carry around all of your ex-girlfriends/bad dates. If they introduce to to any other woman, its over because they'll say "how good of a friend" you are instead of how good of a man you are.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SharinganUser

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Wish I could help you out, but I have only one or two female friends. I can't stand talking about whatever women talk about. Only thing I can say is that you should stop chasing women, and start letting them chase you.

Ortiz said it best "Don't chase women. Become a champion and let women chase you."
 

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KontrollerX said:
"Disagreed. Be an a$$hole about it unless they agree to sleep with you. Period. You dont need leeches in your life, there are too many women out there. You dont need women "friends" to be successful socially."

Disagreed about your disagreement lol.

Chicks will only get a rise out of knowing they got to you by you being an assh0le to them. It makes them feel validated and important. You don't want to give them that power or ego boost so if you must cut some chicks out of your life simply slipping away and going no contact is for the best.

My advice advocates he consider and find out if he can get anything from these women of value first such as social proof, invites to parties, setting him up with a hot friend of theirs or whatever and if they prove to be worthless to such an end as one of these or something else he might find of value then and only then should he cut the "leeches" out of his life.

See I agree with you that leeches are bad for your health and need to be cut off from your blood supply before they suck the very life out of you but until he makes the evaluation that they are leeches with nothing more to offer him than syphoning off good things from him while offering him absolutely nothing in return well I just have to say until that determination is made your advice is flawed.

For this reason and the reason I gave about not wanting to reward a girl's lack of interest towards you with an AFC emotional assh0le angry outburst.

Your point about not needing chicks or even these particular chicks to be successful is a valid one as there can be a lot of benefit to completely starting a new as a DJ and standing on your own but at the same time the alternative is equally valid ie don't cut off a good potential resource or resources until you have deemed they are not resources at all.
Disagreed about your disagreement of my disagreement. If they arent putting out, he needs them to vacate his life. The ONLY way I can see him holding on to a phone number is IF they have hott friends they want to set his ass up with. Other than that, attractive women who dont want to fu*ck are about as useful as a large pile of fresh dog$hit in 108 degree weather.
 

SharinganUser

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JackPrescott said:
Disagreed about your disagreement of my disagreement. If they arent putting out, he needs them to vacate his life. The ONLY way I can see him holding on to a phone number is IF they have hott friends they want to set his ass up with. Other than that, attractive women who dont want to fu*ck are about as useful as a large pile of fresh dog$hit in 108 degree weather.

I have to disagree about your disagreement of his disagreement of his disagreement of your disagreement. If she isn't gonna hook me up, or hook up with me, then she better be a super chill chick. Other than that, women are troublesome.
 
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