"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Why Do I Get So Much Shyt Thrown At Me?

MidnightResistance

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Pretty much constantly for the past 2 months I've had girls throwing all kinds of shyt at me.

I'll start a regular conversation at work or whever and they'll be talking to me normally, then it gets to the point where I'm not sure if they're taking the piss or not (because they're still being sincere and honest), then they become hyper critical and bytchy at me.
I have no idea why.

My only response to this, as I cannot be cutting back as I have no material at hand to be cutting with in the conversation is to be verbally abusive, which has worked, but doesn't tend to go down too well in the work place.
P1SS OFF B1TCH! being a favourite.

Does anyone else get this?
Any idea why I'm getting it so much?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I thought DJs were not supposed to get angry.
 

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Originally posted by driveon
I thought DJs were not supposed to get angry.
DJs CAN get angry. There is no rule what we can and cant do, were all indivuduals. The term DJ is a vauge basic outline of a model individual, not an exact set of rules.
 

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This is standard i sh!t testing. Sometimes getting angery will make you fail the test, but it's better than just taking it and acting like a chump. you got to stand up to them and call their BS. It's just a question of what's the best response tactic to use in general. I think this is where C+F is most useful. You just need a standard issue response to this common sh!t testing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MidnightResistance

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Ok, so on the flip side.
Do you think it's a good thing I get shyt tested so much?
Does this mean women are interested? Or just messing with me?
 

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My girlfriend just told me tonight what taking the piss meant. "Aye, ya fuggin muppet, stop takin the piss on me". I think she also tried to explain some more northern english slang, which I found "well" interesting. See, I used "well" instead of "really"? That's the midlands accent for ya!
 

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
Ok, so on the flip side.
Do you think it's a good thing I get shyt tested so much?
Does this mean women are interested? Or just messing with me?
The idea is that the girl is tentatively interested in you so she tests you to make sure. If you pass the test you have a good chance of getting her and if you don't pass she loses interest. If the girl was strongy interested in you she probably wouldn't sh!t test you at all, but if she wasn't interested at all she wouldn't bother to test you either and act indifferent and probably just avoid you all together.

A lot of girls, especially hotter ones, sh!t test in various way and I think a lot of guys either cave in to or run off. I don't think dealing effectively with tests is directly discussed enough on the board. The way I see it if a girl keeps talking with you but isn't show you strong attraction she probably sh1t testing you one way or another.
 

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Hmm... I got a bit of this a while back, from a disgruntled date, who would try to insult me as much as possible and as subtly as possible. I would always turn her questions back on her and after a while she got the point and shut up about it.

One of my previous dates was like "Oh, on one hand I want to sleep with you, but on the other hand I don't want to leave you with this impression of me."

WTF?

Remember dude:

"The bigger the smile, the sharper the knife"

I think 2 things can be used to help remedy the situation.

Law #4: Always Say Less Than Necessary
Law #44: Disarm and Infuriate with a Mirror Effect
 

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C+F is the answer I think.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DJs CAN get angry.

I disagree. Angry is not calm, cool, collected, and detached. Anger is weakness. It's like jealousy - if you had what you wanted then you would not be angry. Anger is a lack of power over your reality. James Bond never gets angry.

I have a bad temper, and it is something with which I struggle. But if you can motivate yourself to the same level w/o anger, then anger becomes just a useless and destructive emotion.
 

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The trick is to not get angry, but don't take any **** either. If she says something mean, remain calm, pause for a few seconds and then CALMLY say something like, "I don't have to take that from YOU." Then just look at her like "Now what?" She won't know what to do because every other time she did that, they guy either wussed out and kissed her ass, or got mad like you did. Getting mad is better than wussing out, but remaining calm and calling her on her **** will driver her nuts.
 
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