Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why Do I Get So Much Shyt Thrown At Me?

MidnightResistance

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Pretty much constantly for the past 2 months I've had girls throwing all kinds of shyt at me.

I'll start a regular conversation at work or whever and they'll be talking to me normally, then it gets to the point where I'm not sure if they're taking the piss or not (because they're still being sincere and honest), then they become hyper critical and bytchy at me.
I have no idea why.

My only response to this, as I cannot be cutting back as I have no material at hand to be cutting with in the conversation is to be verbally abusive, which has worked, but doesn't tend to go down too well in the work place.
P1SS OFF B1TCH! being a favourite.

Does anyone else get this?
Any idea why I'm getting it so much?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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driveon

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I thought DJs were not supposed to get angry.
 

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Originally posted by driveon
I thought DJs were not supposed to get angry.
DJs CAN get angry. There is no rule what we can and cant do, were all indivuduals. The term DJ is a vauge basic outline of a model individual, not an exact set of rules.
 

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This is standard i sh!t testing. Sometimes getting angery will make you fail the test, but it's better than just taking it and acting like a chump. you got to stand up to them and call their BS. It's just a question of what's the best response tactic to use in general. I think this is where C+F is most useful. You just need a standard issue response to this common sh!t testing.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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MidnightResistance

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Ok, so on the flip side.
Do you think it's a good thing I get shyt tested so much?
Does this mean women are interested? Or just messing with me?
 

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My girlfriend just told me tonight what taking the piss meant. "Aye, ya fuggin muppet, stop takin the piss on me". I think she also tried to explain some more northern english slang, which I found "well" interesting. See, I used "well" instead of "really"? That's the midlands accent for ya!
 

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
Ok, so on the flip side.
Do you think it's a good thing I get shyt tested so much?
Does this mean women are interested? Or just messing with me?
The idea is that the girl is tentatively interested in you so she tests you to make sure. If you pass the test you have a good chance of getting her and if you don't pass she loses interest. If the girl was strongy interested in you she probably wouldn't sh!t test you at all, but if she wasn't interested at all she wouldn't bother to test you either and act indifferent and probably just avoid you all together.

A lot of girls, especially hotter ones, sh!t test in various way and I think a lot of guys either cave in to or run off. I don't think dealing effectively with tests is directly discussed enough on the board. The way I see it if a girl keeps talking with you but isn't show you strong attraction she probably sh1t testing you one way or another.
 

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Hmm... I got a bit of this a while back, from a disgruntled date, who would try to insult me as much as possible and as subtly as possible. I would always turn her questions back on her and after a while she got the point and shut up about it.

One of my previous dates was like "Oh, on one hand I want to sleep with you, but on the other hand I don't want to leave you with this impression of me."

WTF?

Remember dude:

"The bigger the smile, the sharper the knife"

I think 2 things can be used to help remedy the situation.

Law #4: Always Say Less Than Necessary
Law #44: Disarm and Infuriate with a Mirror Effect
 

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C+F is the answer I think.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt

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DJs CAN get angry.

I disagree. Angry is not calm, cool, collected, and detached. Anger is weakness. It's like jealousy - if you had what you wanted then you would not be angry. Anger is a lack of power over your reality. James Bond never gets angry.

I have a bad temper, and it is something with which I struggle. But if you can motivate yourself to the same level w/o anger, then anger becomes just a useless and destructive emotion.
 

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The trick is to not get angry, but don't take any **** either. If she says something mean, remain calm, pause for a few seconds and then CALMLY say something like, "I don't have to take that from YOU." Then just look at her like "Now what?" She won't know what to do because every other time she did that, they guy either wussed out and kissed her ass, or got mad like you did. Getting mad is better than wussing out, but remaining calm and calling her on her **** will driver her nuts.
 
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