"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do I freeze up? ADVICE NEEDED

Don Corleone

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guys, I need some advice. Tonight i was at this bangin party, probably 25 people, and the female to male ratio was pretty even. Some cute ladies walked in, and damn, let me tell you one was gorgeous!

I was completely into her, a 10 in my book. anyway, I didn't think I would have a chance with her. About halfway through the night, (after me making bomb margaritas), she was completely eyein me.

Every time I looked her way I would catch her lookin at me. I walked by her one time and I heard her say something to her friend about me.

This should be an easy deal right? I should have just walked over there, layed some DJ SKILLZ on her and gotton the hook up.

Instead, I just kind of froze up(not the first time this has happened to me). I dont know what the heck is wrong with me guys.

As soon as she was leaving, i put my head down and was totally regretting my AFC'ness, and i turned around and there she was! I was making another margarita when she started looking at the Tequila i was using and asked me if i liked it.

We had some small talk guys, but I didn't close the deal. Man I feel like a chump right now.....

tomorrow i'm gonna have my buddy call her(hes friends with her) and try to salvage what could have been something nice. maybe one of these days ill grow some damn balls and man up about things.

ANY WORDS OF ADVICE, ENCOURAGEMENT, OR INSIGHT as to why i am being such a CHUMP would be appreciated. Man, regret is a much worse feeling than being rejected...let me tell ya.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Chazz

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Originally posted by Don Corleone
Man, regret is a much worse feeling than being rejected...let me tell ya.
Remember this next time you see a cutie.
 

Lifeforce

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You are probably scared of being rejected or scared of how she will react if you say what you want to say. You will know yourself why this happened, you just have to accept the real reason.
 

MadaMadaDame

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Tell you what, just go there and experience it, if ever you feel nervous just remember your nervous because you are excited not because of any other reason. Overcoming ones fear is often one of the most exciting part of life. Just go for it and have fun. The next time you think about the incident it will be a happy incident because you made it so. Go for it and there won't be any regrets later.
 
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