"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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why do i attract the fat and ugly girls???

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ok, without being up myself i consider myself a great catch. im young im in shape im far from ugly and i have no problem getting girls, but my problem is i also attract the fatties and ugly chicks too.
so many times ive been ****blocked by the warpigs because they have the hots for me and dont want me to get with their friends and i dont get it. i would never get with these girls as i have high standards. i have a feeling its because im a really nice person to everyone and maybe they take this the wrong way? if anyone could help me understand why i attract them and how i can firmly let them know that im not attracted to them without being mean that would be great. thx all
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You may be missing signals from the hotties that they are interested-they don't need to do as much to attract a guy. The less desirable women have to go out on a limb like a guy does,to make it obvious that they are willing.
 
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Good. You're moving up the ladder.

Keep working on the game and improving yourself and you'll see that cuter girls will take a liking to you too.

Congratulations on this first step.
 
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well thx for the link that helps but my dilemma is i DO get hot girls but i also get alot of attention from fat chicks and ugly chicks when they are clearly not in my league and i dont know how to let them know nicely that they are not in my league
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dj ben2 said:
well thx for the link that helps but my dilemma is i DO get hot girls but i also get alot of attention from fat chicks and ugly chicks when they are clearly not in my league and i dont know how to let them know nicely that they are not in my league
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You don't. You talk to them, be civil and then do something else. Pay no attention to their chase. You focus on who you want and ignore what you don't.

Works for me. If they get really annoying I have to use more aggressive tactics... like going out of my way just to talk to them. I find that giving them monologues about topics like politics, engineering, science, pandemics... and other boring topics are great to shut down that attraction.
 
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Alle_Gory said:
You don't. You talk to them, be civil and then do something else. Pay no attention to their chase. You focus on who you want and ignore what you don't.

Works for me. If they get really annoying I have to use more aggressive tactics... like going out of my way just to talk to them. I find that giving them monologues about topics like politics, engineering, science, pandemics... and other boring topics are great to shut down that attraction.
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I made a thread about this topic myself a while back.

I like that second paragraph Alle. I gotta try that one!
 
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I like that second paragraph Alle. I gotta try that one!
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It's super effective. But it might take a few applications. At first, the girls are so glad that you're finally paying attention to them, but after awhile the feeling of doom begins to sink in. I do my best to make sure that I'm doing at least 90% of the rambling with these monologues.

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Alle_Gory said:
It's super effective. But it might take a few applications. At first, the girls are so glad that you're finally paying attention to them, but after awhile the feeling of doom begins to sink in. I do my best to make sure that I'm doing at least 90% of the rambling with these monologues.

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ROTFLMAO!!! It's super effective!

@ the OP, remember that some female attention is better than none. This will slowly but surely move you up the scale, as pre-selection can be helpful.
 
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sodbuster said:
You may be missing signals from the hotties that they are interested-they don't need to do as much to attract a guy. The less desirable women have to go out on a limb like a guy does,to make it obvious that they are willing.
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Some darn good advice right there. The hotties don't have to be overt to signal their interest, or don't even notice you because they're fending off the 5-10 guys slathering them with attention at any given moment, figuratively speaking.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If I wanted to let a woman know I'm not interested.

I would probably

A) Stare off into space or act like I'm waiting for someone.

B) Respond with one-word answers.

But normally I just make small talk regardless of if I'm attracted to the chick or not. I treat everybody with respect. It's just universal and of course good conversation practice.
 
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Just a tip, when you're backed up against a wall and a fattie/uggo is talking your ear off, when you see a hottie walk by excuse yourself from the nottie, and swift and subtly tell the hottie "pretend like you know me, that girl just won't leave me alone" or something to that effect. It's a sweet situational opener that capitalizes on your preselection at that moment in time.
 
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