"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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**** why do I always go limp

faiNt`

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This is pissing me the **** off ...

More than once I've been in bed with a girl and after she gets done sucking me off I go completely limp while trying to penetrate. It's ****ing with my confidence so hard right now. I don't even know what to do or why it's happening.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LayercakeBryan

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I will be honest I have had that happen with only 2 women and both times they turned out to be bad News, one turned out to be a BPD chick. I think your body or your mind can sense something off about the situation, It only lasted about a week and then went away for each. Both times happened years apart.
 

londonzen

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lol happened trying to doggy a fat girl with celulite
i told her i didnt want doggy lol
 

Matt281

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It's 100% being in your head too much, even if you don't feel like you're thinking too much or nervous.

I had this happen for several weeks with my last girlfriend and thought there was something wrong with me. The truth is, if you can get it up at all, you're fine and it'll self correct once you get your mind in the right place.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bonafide

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Yeah, of course we know the answer to that question because we are your penis.
 

Galactus

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It happened to me for about four months. It really sucked, and ruined some good times with several women. I bought some pills they advertised on the radio, and they didn't do sh1t. Then I saw a urologist, who gave me some Viagra. That took care of the problem. Eventually things went back to normal.

No man wants to face the fact that he may have reached a time in his life where he has to take such measures. And maybe you don't. Tell you what, though. With those little blue pills, you can drill holes in concrete.
 

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Haha! Actually, I'm going through this right now, too. And I actually feel a little better knowing that I'm not the only one. I've tried the blue pill, too, but it's not as effective as getting comfortable with the women you're with. Or maybe you're just not into your girl anymore. In my case, I think comfort with the girl is a very big deal.
 

BigJimbo

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faiNt` said:
This is pissing me the **** off ...

More than once I've been in bed with a girl and after she gets done sucking me off I go completely limp while trying to penetrate. It's ****ing with my confidence so hard right now. I don't even know what to do or why it's happening.
BANG her first. Not last. So simple.

When in doubt repeat the mantra of...BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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blackwolf

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happened to me heaps. i find you only perform well if you're 100% comfortable with the girl.. not just cause shes hot, you need to want to be there and doing it.
 

Galactus

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Comfort level with the girl may be part of it, but in my case at least, there was more to it than that. It happened with several women over a certain period of time. Things like diet, exercise, the amount of sleep you're getting, and overall stress level can be factors too. I found that it helped to spend more time with foreplay.

I know from experience this is easier said than done, but don't let it stress you out. It's a normal thing, it doesn't last forever.
 

rushing dude 123

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This has happened to me before when i first started off, its just in your mind bro unless your banging some sasquatch lol. Stop thinking, just enjoy. If it dosn't happen it dosn't happen. You thinking "O i got to make it hard, NOOOO he's going down!!!!!!" isn't going to change anything. So just forget about it and enjoy fondling with the naked woman in front of you.
 
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