"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Why do I always feel like she is watching (staring at) me?

Eph

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Last year I dropped a plate because I couldn't be myself around her. Even though she seemed to be trying to, at the very least, become friends (i.e make an orbiter out of me), I cut off all contact and stopped trying because I didn't see the use in chasing after someone I couldn't be myself around.

Anyway, earlier this year, I had one class with her and sat behind her (not by choice). Even though I don't talk to her anymore, she's tried having conversations with me every now and again.

Every time she turned around to look at the clock, I got the feeling that she would glance at me. Of course, a few times I noticed and held eye contact for a short while. Now, I've got another class with her and again it just feels like she's staring. Why do I always have this feeling? Is it just me wishfully-thinking there could be more?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SeymourCake

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If she has a phone, then she could easily just turn it on to see what time it is for a quick glance...Unless your professor made it clear that you cannot have phones during the class.

If not, maybe she is looking back to look at you.
 

Nickface

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I'm not sure what your intentions are here though. Does it really matter if she glances at you? If you still want to maintain no contact, then just be yourself and be ghost. If you want something out of this, then hold eye contact and chat it up?
 

El Payaso

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Keep your NC and ignore her. She's just trying to get your attention and validate her decision to turn you into an orbiter. DO NOT RESPOND TO HER TACTICS.
 
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