"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why do I always feel like she is watching (staring at) me?

Eph

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Last year I dropped a plate because I couldn't be myself around her. Even though she seemed to be trying to, at the very least, become friends (i.e make an orbiter out of me), I cut off all contact and stopped trying because I didn't see the use in chasing after someone I couldn't be myself around.

Anyway, earlier this year, I had one class with her and sat behind her (not by choice). Even though I don't talk to her anymore, she's tried having conversations with me every now and again.

Every time she turned around to look at the clock, I got the feeling that she would glance at me. Of course, a few times I noticed and held eye contact for a short while. Now, I've got another class with her and again it just feels like she's staring. Why do I always have this feeling? Is it just me wishfully-thinking there could be more?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SeymourCake

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If she has a phone, then she could easily just turn it on to see what time it is for a quick glance...Unless your professor made it clear that you cannot have phones during the class.

If not, maybe she is looking back to look at you.
 

Nickface

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I'm not sure what your intentions are here though. Does it really matter if she glances at you? If you still want to maintain no contact, then just be yourself and be ghost. If you want something out of this, then hold eye contact and chat it up?
 

El Payaso

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Keep your NC and ignore her. She's just trying to get your attention and validate her decision to turn you into an orbiter. DO NOT RESPOND TO HER TACTICS.
 
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