Most girls test you, and if you don’t push back confidently enough, they’ll start calling you feminine. The tests you’re describing, along with the comfort tests you mentioned earlier, are essentially fitness tests. In other words, she’s asking, “Can you give me what I need?” The tricky part is that sometimes she doesn’t even know what that need is. She might think she’s angry, but your embrace calms her to the core. She might think she’s afraid you’re about to leave, but when you give her some affection and then step away for the night, she later realizes she overreacted and things settle down.
But here’s the bigger issue: you live too far away to consistently give her what she needs. On top of that, she has crossed several boundaries, and you still came back each time. Because of that, she keeps attacking you, because she knows there are no real consequences and that you won’t walk away, and the distance only makes it worse, since you’re too far away to even be present in the way she seems to want. The irony is that walking away is one of the most powerful tools a man has in relationships.
So did you even read the book I recommended? Don’t you have anything better to do with your time than worrying about what a mental abuser is doing? What real benefit does she bring to your life? Don’t you think you are the epitome of an orbiter in her life?
This will probably be my last reply to your threads unless you start making real progress or get a girlfriend who actually lives near you. At this point it almost feels like trolling, or like the saying goes: you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
