"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lili19771

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Why does it seem that every time I see a girl I think I'd bang, I always picture me having a relationship with her? Does this happen to anyone else? To describe it better it's kind of like I see a hot girl and I even if I don't approach her I always have thoughts of my future with her. Is this normal? It's mostly been happening a lot lately. What's wrong with me for having this happen?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PDubb75

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While it may not be "weird" to think that way, it's very counterproductive. By putting her in your mind as someone that means that much to you, before you even talk to her, you are putting so much unneeded pressure on yourself. I'm sure you can agree that you will have more pressure on yourself approaching your possible "future LTR" than "that cute girl I want to get to know".

Even if you do still work up the courage to approach her, the conversation probably won't feel as comfortable to her when your mindset is on her being your next relationship. Relax and have a more carefree approach with the mindset that it will be fun meeting someone new to see if you have a connection. That will rub off on her and give the exchange a better feel.
 
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