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Why do girls like guys that look very similar to them

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It happens naturally. confident people who look good but are realistic about where they are at, find it easier to connect with people whoa re on their same level.. if you consider yourself a 7, and theres another 7 in your circles.. chances are you guys will be on similar frequencies compared to any one else.. the people who are less attractive are on a diff vibe than u , the people who are more attractive than u might be o n a diff vibe as well... and truly like attractive 10/10 people are scarce.. theres a bigger chance you and that other person are the only 7s in ur group or u finding that 7 is much easier than u finding that 10. ofc ur not gonna settle for less than the 7 cuz u see yourself as a 7.

its the same thing with ugly people getting together.. theyre just more likely to

the fact that people look alike, thats all jus subjective.. most average people can look similar.. unless they have super unique eyes or eyebrows or a super unique nose, most decent looking people look similar.. thats why there are a standards to beauty.. if u have a nice nose slope, not super bulbous tip, average lip size, good teeth, average eyes and average eyebrows but goo dskin, chances are there are prob a plethora of people u can get with that someone will say "they look like brothers and sister " or "u guys look so much alike"

Ive gotten this about one of my ex's.. "you guys look alike in those pictures" or "you guys looked like u were related" but we really didnt.. her skin tone was diff than mine for one, she was much more pale and moon white and im naturally tan . our noses were diff too and eyes.
 

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Hottest chick I ever hooked up with had a similar look to me. It wasn't enough for her to stick around, of course, but what else is new. I still kind of chuckle that it happened -- way out of my league.
 

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Lots of white women are clout chasers. White women chase clout and "Chads". This has been common with the Millennial generation and now into Gen Z. This one below was an early Millennial who has spent 20 years chasing "Chad" and clout to a lesser extent. There's now a cohort of 35-40 year old White women who've done nothing but chase "Chads" and clout for 20+ years.

TBH, I find this far worse amongst Latinas and Asian American women these days, even black women do it. I'd say with white women it really depends on where she is from. In my own observations, if they are from smaller towns and more flyover country, they don't do this. If they are from a wealthy middle or upper middle class suburb, they do this a lot.

The biggest clout chasing white women are not the wealthy ones or even the poor ones, they are always the middle class or overcompensating upper middle class types. Rarely are they the old money type who are used to the clout coming to them. The toxic traits white women get accused of, I have noticed it be way worse in other groups of women, particularly Latinas.

I feel like the weaboo white guy/Asian girl is a HS thing and extremely rare and isolated. Your bling Empire/boss babe Asian girl isn't going to date some nerdy smelly weaboo guy lol. The above three are mainly older guys associated with going to developing Asian countries and finding some street rat off a rice paddy village.

You are right about the alpha white guys ignoring Asian women. I have never seen a Chad with an Asian woman ever lol. I feel like my GF is the exception because she finds muscular men attractive.
The only Chads I have seen with Asian women are Asian and Indian Chads lol. I have known a couple of white Chads with Asian women but both times they were Filipinas and not East Asian women. Korean and Chinese women go for beta white guys they can control. Your girlfriend is also mixed, mixed Asian girls go for Chads and end up with them often (Olivia Munn for example).

From my observations, NYC did you dirty with Asian and Italian American women lmao. Was it that bad up there? I haven't been fortunate enough to live in every big city like you, but I have lived in a lot red states/towns. I like Houston and that's why I have decided to stay here, but trust me dude it is just as bad in the red states/towns. If you aren't married by HS, you are leftover with the druggies, single moms, and hyper feminist liberal women compensating HARD for the fact they can't leave Jonesboro, Arkansas for San Francisco lol. These MAGA republican men in small town America will be LOUD AF on the internet or by themselves in public but turn in to little docile simps when their wives are around.
Hahaha, it was bad and good. I will write about it in my NYC Observations thread one day but the good is all in Manhattan. Nowhere else in the US was it as easy for me to get laid or make a lot of good friends. However, Manhattan was good because it was full of transplants from outside of NYC who wanted to make something of themselves. Well educated, cool, friendly, and fun.

What sucks about NYC? Actual New Yorkers. Queens, Long Island, Staten Island, Brooklyn, and most of the boroughs had some of the most deranged people out there. Outside of the WASPs and the Jews, most New Yorkers have a serious inferiority complex that they compensate for by being racist towards everyone not of their group. Confrontational for no reason, hateful, spiteful, calculating, miserable, and always looking to ruin the vibe. Black and Latino NYers were an exception to the rule and as were WASPs and Jewish New Yorkers.

However, yeah, Italian Americans in NYC are the embodiment of trash as I have said many times. NYC Asians are just weird, combative, and intrusive. The women are all mentally unhealthy, clout chasing, emo, and insufferable.

I have lived in Red States too my friend. The thing is, Southerners have some degree of honor, class, and decency even though they are insufferable with their religion. You cannot say that about most New Yorkers. Miserable people that want to ruin everything they touch with their vibe. Everything is some petty confrontation and they are loud and combative for no reason. A lot of them have some pent up evil in their souls but at the same time are more bark than bite. The issue is, a barking Yorkie sure gets annoying!
 

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BTW, I just noticed this and maybe others can point out their observations too. In most cases when I have seen a good looking white girl with a minority, she has almost always been a brunette. Like the only exception are hot blondes with a muscular and high status black dude but that is about it. I seem to notice that I see a lot of tanned brunette white girls with the Emily Ratajkowski type of look with ethnic dudes which further adds to what OP was pointing out.

One of my Hispanic friends says that whenever he is out with a white girl that is more tanned with black/brunette hair, no one notices. When he has been out with a hot blonde, people always notice and give them the stares.

Just noticing it back from what I have observed. I have known some brunettes back in my high school days that dyed their hair black, they were naturally tanned too, and tried to pull off that Jenner sister look. Most of them have dated or are married to a guy who is a minority.

Even one of my wings who was this Arab dude from France mentioned that he gets a lot of love from white women with that kind of a look.
 

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BTW, I just noticed this and maybe others can point out their observations too. In most cases when I have seen a good looking white girl with a minority, she has almost always been a brunette. Like the only exception are hot blondes with a muscular and high status black dude but that is about it. I seem to notice that I see a lot of tanned brunette white girls with the Emily Ratajkowski type of look with ethnic dudes which further adds to what OP was pointing out.

One of my Hispanic friends says that whenever he is out with a white girl that is more tanned with black/brunette hair, no one notices. When he has been out with a hot blonde, people always notice and give them the stares.

Just noticing it back from what I have observed. I have known some brunettes back in my high school days that dyed their hair black, they were naturally tanned too, and tried to pull off that Jenner sister look. Most of them have dated or are married to a guy who is a minority.

Even one of my wings who was this Arab dude from France mentioned that he gets a lot of love from white women with that kind of a look.
Brunettes are very underrated you are right
 

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Brunettes are very underrated you are right
Yeah but ethnic dudes and minorities love blondes way more to where they would take a blonde 7 over a brunette 10. Once knew an Indian Chad (6'3, athletic body, fashionable, etc.) who cleaned up with women that had the olive skin and brunette look but he loved blondes more. We approached a set together and this tall brunette was super digging him but he was trying to game her uninterested short blonde friend.

I swear, if ethnic dudes only stuck to brunettes when chasing white girls, they wouldn't be complaining about white women not wanting them.
 

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Yeah but ethnic dudes and minorities love blondes way more to where they would take a blonde 7 over a brunette 10. Once knew an Indian Chad (6'3, athletic body, fashionable, etc.) who cleaned up with women that had the olive skin and brunette look but he loved blondes more. We approached a set together and this tall brunette was super digging him but he was trying to game her uninterested short blonde friend.

I swear, if ethnic dudes only stuck to brunettes when chasing white girls, they wouldn't be complaining about white women not wanting them.
Brunettes are gorgeous as ****. This coming from an Asian guy. Oh well more for me I guess
 

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Hate to burst some bubbles but some of y’all act like the concept of “mixing” rather its interracial or cultural is a modern phenomenon. This has been happening since the age of Homo Erectus lol.
They usually talk about how opposites attract, because people who look different supposedly have healthier babies, because they have a wider spread of genetic characteristics. When I was a young lad with dark hair, I found that blondes were far more liable to be attracted to me than brunettes, for instance.

That goes against the topic, but I do believe it can go both ways.
 

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I’m attracting to mixed race and Latina women because I look similar.

However I love white brunette women with brown eyes and occasionally a blondie too.
 

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This phenomenon isn't too far fetched to understand if you take into consideration women's hypergamous nature, aka Women never date down and the fact that they're naturally blackpilled aka they always have an eye out for chad, that's even putting it mildly. Anyway, when her efforts to get Chad's attention fails and her clock is ticking fast as she ages, it only makes logical sense (ironic right) to go for a man who is equal to her in looks smv, a man who looks like her to maintain the illusion of hypergamy and protect her ego. She rationalises her action as not dating some loser that's below her in looks even though she can't secure Chad's affection. If you doubt this ask yourself, would a woman who is a 6 and is able to date a chad who is a 9 leave him for a man who is a 6 that looks just like her? The 6 who is a man is her backup for when chad leaves so she doesn't have a date a 4. Mind you a 6 woman would date a 4 man if he has resources but would readily trade him for an upgrade if the opportunity aka Chad presents it.
 

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In-group preference is very much a real thing, although if you search for it you'll see a bunch of woke globalist articles saying how it's not real.
Never seen those articles. It’s been studied ad nausea that people mostly select their own race on dating apps.


Your description of Asian American women sounds similar to black men in the US. Black men will opt out of black women and praise & worship white women similar to how some Asian women worship white men.
@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 the data just does not support this regarding black men preferring white women.
 

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People are confusing OP's thread for something else. When he says similar to them he means brunette girl with brunette guy, black girl with black guy or blonde girl with blonde guy. Come to think of it, I have known groups where women seem to hate and dislike men with a similar appearance as them when it comes to sleeping around.

I think that environment and culture can matter more than biology here.

Like for example, I notice that Mediterranean and Southern Euro women (especially Italian) who are darker and ethnic looking are suckers for pale men with blonde or red hair and lighter eyes even if said guy is ugly. Then you dig more into the culture and realize that a lot of Southern Euros, especially if they are more ethnic looking, really cling on to being white and value whiteness a lot. Tell one they aren't white and you will ruin their day.

Meanwhile, take an Eastern European, Russian or even an Irish or German woman with a similar ethnic appearance and she isn't going to be that thirsty for a pale guy unless he has a lot of money. If anything, I notice that Eastern European and Russian women with a darker/swarthy appearance love Mediterranean, brown and Latin looking men a lot. The reason could be that these women grew up in an environment where people were talking about more practical things rather than the daily "I swear we white cuz!" convos.

The reason most women end up with men that look similar to them is obvious, because most cultures do not have this weird situation going on where they are uncomfortable with their own skin. Once you start to take that away, women tend to be more in line with what Freud spoke about.

It goes back to my original point though, any culture where what OP is talking about is not the case tends to have some deep-seated issues with it rooted in insecurity, being uncomfortable in one's own skin, and a host of other problems. Coincidentally, such cultures also produce lower quality women that are not considered attractive by most men out there.
 
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@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 the data just does not support this regarding black men preferring white women.
There are a lot of self-hating black men that date basically the white version of the black women they constantly complain about. Now I get if personal preference is a thing, but these men usually make dumb absolute statements about black women when confronted.

Korean and Chinese women go for beta white guys they can control.
Lots of good points, but I wanted to specify this point because so many guys just overlook Asian women and dismiss them as docile and feminine. Nah, Asian women are pretty controlling and dominant and have no interest in looking for some Alpha Chad husband. This kind of explains why they choose the types of white men they pick. This guy does a good job explaining it.


People are confusing OP's thread for something else. When he says similar to them he means brunette girl with brunette guy, black girl with black guy or blonde girl with blonde guy. Come to think of it, I have known groups where women seem to hate and dislike men with a similar appearance as them when it comes to sleeping around.
Yeah I mean like brother/sister similarities lol. People are acting like it's a race thing when it is more of this person literally looks like he or she could be your sibling type deal.
 

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I've heard this before and my observations have said this is true however, has never been true with me.

All of my LTR's have been with Caucasian Women (my current GF is Russian).

All of the FB's and FWB have been Caucasians (Blondes & Brunettes) blue, green, light eyes.

Body types for me has varied.

I am dark tanned, mix of middle eastern, hispanic.
 
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I've heard this before and my observations have said this is true however, has never been true with me.

All of my LTR's have been with Caucasian Women (my current GF is Russian).

All of the FB's and FWB have been Caucasians (Blondes & Brunettes) blue, green, light eyes.

Body types for me has varied.

I am dark tanned, mix of middle eastern, hispanic.
I am black and I have never did anything with a black girl except get randomly kiss raped by one at a bar. Okay, I will say this lol. Black men, Asian women, and White men have a legitimate case for dating interracially IMHO. I do not understand why Middle Eastern and Hispanic men do it because A) Y'all have beautiful women in abundance and B) Y'all have the biggest cultural differences to hurdle through. I'd take a hot middle eastern/latina woman over some golden pvssy syndrome inflated ego white 49er Becky any day lol.
 

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I've heard this before and my observations have said this is true however, has never been true with me.

All of my LTR's have been with Caucasian Women (my current GF is Russian).

All of the FB's and FWB have been Caucasians (Blondes & Brunettes) blue, green, light eyes.

Body types for me has varied.

I am dark tanned, mix of middle eastern, hispanic.
Wait, didn't you say a while back that you pull a lot of Italian chicks?
 

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All of my LTR's have been with Caucasian Women (my current GF is Russian).

All of the FB's and FWB have been Caucasians (Blondes & Brunettes) blue, green, light eyes.
Were they former escorts? Not trying to be funny.
 

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I am black and I have never did anything with a black girl except get randomly kiss raped by one at a bar. Okay, I will say this lol. Black men, Asian women, and White men have a legitimate case for dating interracially IMHO. I do not understand why Middle Eastern and Hispanic men do it because A) Y'all have beautiful women in abundance and B) Y'all have the biggest cultural differences to hurdle through. I'd take a hot middle eastern/latina woman over some golden pvssy syndrome inflated ego white 49er Becky any day lol.
You have a point. Asian men do have low smvs in the U.S too unless they are a doctor or engineer
 

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Wait, didn't you say a while back that you pull a lot of Italian chicks?
Yes, I've had A LOT of success with Italian Women but have also had success with all types. I haven't been involved much at all with black, Hispanic or Asians but I definitely had many opportunities.

My ex GF's were straight up brunette pale white girls.
 
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Were they former escorts? Not trying to be funny.
Absolutely not. They were all Women I picked up on a night out or some social gathering/party/event.
 
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