"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
why do girls do this sh!t
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
DJHoolahoop
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whatever floats your boat.
edit - or when she busts out saying "we should hang out" you say "i don't think that's a good idea." (remember that at this point it seems all is lost anyways right... so who gives a fvck) then when she asks why you can't say "because everytime i'm around you all i wanna do is get really close to you and i'd have a hard time controlling myself" or or... when she asks to hang out you can say "ya we should hang out with my wang out and rock out with my c0ck out!" <-- gets them everytime
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
1. I was drunk as fvck
2. I was high as fvck
3. I just got out of a 2 yr ltr
4. On the way to her house that night (i was sort of passed out in the car
) she was on the phone with her friend that was at the bar. i heard her friend on the phone ask her something about me she then replied with no way (probably anwsering the question if i was her bf) then she went on to say something along the lines of shes going to just fvck me/play me so that kind of turned me off that night. 5. I dont give it up right away espically if i know theyre trying to hustle me i dont look like a chump that jumps right away at the first opportunity anyways.
Plus girls that offer themselves that fast to me doesnt do anything. ive had girls throw themselves on me and all i could do is say no cause i honestly dont want too.
Right now shes doing the right thing by acting like this. she shouldve been more like this in the beginning
She aint trying to probe me anymore she knows whats up. were past that. i guess that shes setting herself up cause when that one day comes that she sees me or asks me something i aint giving her sh!t.
reallyfreakinlost - you would give a girl the satisfaction of fvcking you when you know shes trying to play you and use you? yea i could never talk to her again after i get my nut off and she gets her little adrenaline rush by playing me but thats pointless.
Hitman10000
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When you're with a girl you're 50/50 with, you should only allow 1-2 date cancellations per month in the first couple months of dating. Anything more than your alloted limit and you can start thinking about moving on away from her.
It's better to ignore/move on away from potential candidates because you waste less time and put that new time in yourself, so do the same for this gal.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You didn't give her physical validation. She doesn't know whether she was rejected or if you are a loser (she holds control over you). Either way, the window is lost.
Now she's seeking validation by you hanging out with her to prove that you do find her attractive and remain her control on you. It is an ego boost. The longer you drag it out, the more control she has and the less likely you will ever be able to have sex with her.
Hitman10000
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While I understand that a girl will get validation if someone like me asks her to hang out, I'm confused on what you consider "physical validation."blueguy said:
The more options you have, the quicker you make moves because you don't spend so much time on any one girl. That's why a girl sees you as beta if you don't make a move when the window is open (for however long). She becomes unattracted to you and finally closes the window for one of two or both reasons: 1. Rejected (he doesn't find me attractive... BIG TURNOFF) 2. Beta (he doesn't make moves/isn't very social/get many girls... BIG TURNOFF).
So both those problems have to be fixed. You have to pretend you suddenly find her attractive (without words) or that she is slowly 'winning you over' and she has to see that you actively make moves on other girls. But why bother? That can take a looong time.
You may have another chance if you don't give into her games and don't actively pursue her. She knows she has control over you... she keeps asking to see if you say yes to hang out. So then she flakes because she knows she still has you on a string. So now she thinks #2 (are a loser) is more likely the reason you didn't make a move because you are validating her by saying yes to hanging out. Good job. lol
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.