"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
why do girls do this sh!t
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
DJHoolahoop
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whatever floats your boat.
edit - or when she busts out saying "we should hang out" you say "i don't think that's a good idea." (remember that at this point it seems all is lost anyways right... so who gives a fvck) then when she asks why you can't say "because everytime i'm around you all i wanna do is get really close to you and i'd have a hard time controlling myself" or or... when she asks to hang out you can say "ya we should hang out with my wang out and rock out with my c0ck out!" <-- gets them everytime
reallyfreakinlost
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
1. I was drunk as fvck
2. I was high as fvck
3. I just got out of a 2 yr ltr
4. On the way to her house that night (i was sort of passed out in the car
) she was on the phone with her friend that was at the bar. i heard her friend on the phone ask her something about me she then replied with no way (probably anwsering the question if i was her bf) then she went on to say something along the lines of shes going to just fvck me/play me so that kind of turned me off that night. 5. I dont give it up right away espically if i know theyre trying to hustle me i dont look like a chump that jumps right away at the first opportunity anyways.
Plus girls that offer themselves that fast to me doesnt do anything. ive had girls throw themselves on me and all i could do is say no cause i honestly dont want too.
Right now shes doing the right thing by acting like this. she shouldve been more like this in the beginning
She aint trying to probe me anymore she knows whats up. were past that. i guess that shes setting herself up cause when that one day comes that she sees me or asks me something i aint giving her sh!t.
reallyfreakinlost - you would give a girl the satisfaction of fvcking you when you know shes trying to play you and use you? yea i could never talk to her again after i get my nut off and she gets her little adrenaline rush by playing me but thats pointless.
Hitman10000
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When you're with a girl you're 50/50 with, you should only allow 1-2 date cancellations per month in the first couple months of dating. Anything more than your alloted limit and you can start thinking about moving on away from her.
It's better to ignore/move on away from potential candidates because you waste less time and put that new time in yourself, so do the same for this gal.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You didn't give her physical validation. She doesn't know whether she was rejected or if you are a loser (she holds control over you). Either way, the window is lost.
Now she's seeking validation by you hanging out with her to prove that you do find her attractive and remain her control on you. It is an ego boost. The longer you drag it out, the more control she has and the less likely you will ever be able to have sex with her.
Hitman10000
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While I understand that a girl will get validation if someone like me asks her to hang out, I'm confused on what you consider "physical validation."blueguy said:
The more options you have, the quicker you make moves because you don't spend so much time on any one girl. That's why a girl sees you as beta if you don't make a move when the window is open (for however long). She becomes unattracted to you and finally closes the window for one of two or both reasons: 1. Rejected (he doesn't find me attractive... BIG TURNOFF) 2. Beta (he doesn't make moves/isn't very social/get many girls... BIG TURNOFF).
So both those problems have to be fixed. You have to pretend you suddenly find her attractive (without words) or that she is slowly 'winning you over' and she has to see that you actively make moves on other girls. But why bother? That can take a looong time.
You may have another chance if you don't give into her games and don't actively pursue her. She knows she has control over you... she keeps asking to see if you say yes to hang out. So then she flakes because she knows she still has you on a string. So now she thinks #2 (are a loser) is more likely the reason you didn't make a move because you are validating her by saying yes to hanging out. Good job. lol
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.