I think if you search hard, choose very wisely, and get a secure prenup, you'll have the best chance of success just staying in America. There's no need to search the world over; just refuse to put up with the social and legal bullsh1t.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I heard even with an airtight prenup the courts still side by the woman...which is bullsh!t. they can rob you for everything during the divorce and you cant do anything about it...don't believe me? ask any divorced guy. equal rights my as$.Obsidian said:I think if you search hard, choose very wisely, and get a secure prenup, you'll have the best chance of success just staying in America. There's no need to search the world over; just refuse to put up with the social and legal bullsh1t.
I don't think that's true. It's just that a prenup is a contract, and there are certain contracts that courts will not enforce, usually because they're not drawn up properly. For example, you need to 1) write it down on paper, 2) advise the girl to seek legal counsel, 3) make sure it's fair to both parties, etc.I heard even with an airtight prenup the courts still side by the woman
Ken785 said:I heard even with an airtight prenup the courts still side by the woman...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You didn't know? The judge as the right to throw out prenups. If the women claimed they were emotionally or physically "abused" you can get jail time. I should have added why American men still marry American women in AMERICA! When the court system is so biased.Obsidian said:I don't think that's true. It's just that a prenup is a contract, and there are certain contracts that courts will not enforce, usually because they're not drawn up properly. For example, you need to 1) write it down on paper, 2) advise the girl to seek legal counsel, 3) make sure it's fair to both parties, etc.
i'm pretty sure you can appeal it if a court just throws the prenup out arbitrarily. Trial judges f*ck up all the time, but appellate courts usually have their act together.
Nip/Tuck said:You didn't know? The judge as the right to throw out prenups.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't think it's love at all or perhaps "a whole lotta like" at best. I believe if the passion was truly there, couple would put more effort into sustaining the relationship by doing things to keep it healthy instead of neglecting it.Master Bates said:Marriages are failing for a few reasons I think: the family structure that marriages were once built around is now crumbling; people the past few decades have been marrying for "love" instead of stability and family, and love is just a much weaker foundation; and to top it off, women these days are crazy, don't know what they want, and have a sense of entitlement that doesn't mix well with marriage.
Never been involved with divorce, so I'm sorry but I don't have any documents. I think it's illegal for having legal documents online anyways, so you should ask a lawyer friend of yours. How about you show some "evidence?" If you are at "fault" the prenup can and will be thrown out by state laws. I was tying that to how women can claim physical and verbal abuse, which will make it the husband's fault. Ex. New York State lawsbigjohnson said:Please cite a reliable source for this, preferably a lawyer or legal document. I know of several first hand experiences where this was not the case.
There's no necessity to get married any more in order to achieve "forever" because the concept of forever seems to be a pipe dream. The legalities of marriage has made it a riskier proposition than even investing in the stock market.Obsidian said:Yeah, because if a woman loves you at one point, she'll love you forever, right Francisco?![]()
Many states (Oregon for one) are completely no fault. Not "no one needs to be at fault to get a divorce", but "the concept of fault doesn't matter in a dissolution of marriage proceeding". Also it's not illegal to have legal documents available electronically (where did THAT come from?) and what I was looking for was articles by legal scholars or lawyers rather than urban legend.Nip/Tuck said:... I'm sorry but I don't have any documents. ....
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why on earth would lawyers and "legal scholars" post something that would potentially harm their income? Read my other post, marriage and divorce are very profitable to them. You have to be a complete idiot to provide evidence against yourself.bigjohnson said:Many states (Oregon for one) are completely no fault. Not "no one needs to be at fault to get a divorce", but "the concept of fault doesn't matter in a dissolution of marriage proceeding". Also it's not illegal to have legal documents available electronically (where did THAT come from?) and what I was looking for was articles by legal scholars or lawyers rather than urban legend.
Nip/Tuck said:Why on earth would lawyers and "legal scholars" post something that would potentially harm their income? Read my other post, marriage and divorce are very profitable to them. You have to be a complete idiot to provide evidence against yourself.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.