Anybody know? I here people say you should get married because you love someone but why do you have to marry them and why should you? You can love somebody without marrying them. Also what would make you love that person? Is "love" the same thing as "oneitis"? If not then what is the difference?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why did u get married? Why should you?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Love is hard to describe,so I won't. THE only reason to marry is if you want to have kids. They should have a stable home life and parents. I'd wait until you are old enough to realize what you want in a woman. When I married, I had a totallly different kind off woman than I would have at 20.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Love is hard to describe,so I won't. THE only reason to marry is if you want to have kids. They should have a stable home life and parents. I'd wait until you are old enough to realize what you want in a woman. When I married, I had a totallly different kind off woman than I would have at 20.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
Igetit!
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You don't have to marry someone just because you love them,however, imo marrying someone is an expression of that love. Because in marrying someone,in essence what you're saying is that you want to give yourself,(all of yourself,not just your body) to another person. You're saying that out of all of the other people in the world,you choose this one person to be with and to be with you-for life. If this isn't an expression of love for another person,I don't know what is.dadmonson said:
This is true,but tell me this:If you've been dating a woman for a long period of time,what could she do FOR YOU that would let you know that this woman truely loves you? Cook for you? Sex? What could she do that wold make you think in you mind,"Wow,she really does love me.dadmonson said:
This is easy. No. The difference is easy. Oneitis comes out of neediness. You feel like something is missing and you're trying to get something for another person to fill that need. Love gives. It's just that simple.dadmonson said:
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
Naaaah...
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
Naaaah...oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
You should work on that....but just maybe. You cant say that all married me dont keep sh*t real.abcd_z said:Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
skEwb
Don Juan
ahahaha I'm only laughing because I couldn't agree more. I'm very impressed at some of the younger guys on this site having very crucial knowledge early on. However as you get older you start to think "oh **** time is running out" but then again, the older men are the more women are interested and once women hit around 30 and their looks fade.. the less men seem to be interested.abcd_z said:Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
I like myself 50/50 looks and personality. To all those that chose to get married I guess you felt that was the lady you had to lock down, no problems
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FWIW Getting married is mostly good for the woman. When she leave yo ass she gon' leave with half.
BTW, Google doesn't have a sure definition of love!
BTW, Google doesn't have a sure definition of love!
DonGorgon
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Love = allowing emotions to inhibit logical assessment and decision making in an interpersonal relationship.
Marriage = and obsolete concept based on obsolete religious requirements that were thought to increase the quality of society.
What ever you do in life, love marriage player etc.. just make sure you have money. Cause capitalism is your new god. and it it 1000000X times more powerful than your last one.
Marriage = and obsolete concept based on obsolete religious requirements that were thought to increase the quality of society.
What ever you do in life, love marriage player etc.. just make sure you have money. Cause capitalism is your new god. and it it 1000000X times more powerful than your last one.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.