Anybody know? I here people say you should get married because you love someone but why do you have to marry them and why should you? You can love somebody without marrying them. Also what would make you love that person? Is "love" the same thing as "oneitis"? If not then what is the difference?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Why did u get married? Why should you?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Love is hard to describe,so I won't. THE only reason to marry is if you want to have kids. They should have a stable home life and parents. I'd wait until you are old enough to realize what you want in a woman. When I married, I had a totallly different kind off woman than I would have at 20.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Love is hard to describe,so I won't. THE only reason to marry is if you want to have kids. They should have a stable home life and parents. I'd wait until you are old enough to realize what you want in a woman. When I married, I had a totallly different kind off woman than I would have at 20.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
I'd only do it again if I had a prenup,a foreign Asset protection trust etc. If she wants to leave, she shouldn't get paid for it.
Igetit!
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You don't have to marry someone just because you love them,however, imo marrying someone is an expression of that love. Because in marrying someone,in essence what you're saying is that you want to give yourself,(all of yourself,not just your body) to another person. You're saying that out of all of the other people in the world,you choose this one person to be with and to be with you-for life. If this isn't an expression of love for another person,I don't know what is.dadmonson said:
This is true,but tell me this:If you've been dating a woman for a long period of time,what could she do FOR YOU that would let you know that this woman truely loves you? Cook for you? Sex? What could she do that wold make you think in you mind,"Wow,she really does love me.dadmonson said:
This is easy. No. The difference is easy. Oneitis comes out of neediness. You feel like something is missing and you're trying to get something for another person to fill that need. Love gives. It's just that simple.dadmonson said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
Naaaah...
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
Naaaah...oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
You should work on that....but just maybe. You cant say that all married me dont keep sh*t real.abcd_z said:Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
skEwb
Don Juan
ahahaha I'm only laughing because I couldn't agree more. I'm very impressed at some of the younger guys on this site having very crucial knowledge early on. However as you get older you start to think "oh **** time is running out" but then again, the older men are the more women are interested and once women hit around 30 and their looks fade.. the less men seem to be interested.abcd_z said:Fsck that. Marriage is a social contract that benefits the woman ONLY. It's a formalization of the beta-male/provider role that hands a man's balls to the woman, AND nicely screws over his material interests unless he takes steps to ensure otherwise.
In exchange, the man gets a false sense of security, despite the fact that women don't really operate from a frame of fairness or exchange. In other words, you've handed over your balls for no good reason.
Cynical? Me?
I like myself 50/50 looks and personality. To all those that chose to get married I guess you felt that was the lady you had to lock down, no problems
nismo-4
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FWIW Getting married is mostly good for the woman. When she leave yo ass she gon' leave with half.
BTW, Google doesn't have a sure definition of love!
BTW, Google doesn't have a sure definition of love!
DonGorgon
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Love = allowing emotions to inhibit logical assessment and decision making in an interpersonal relationship.
Marriage = and obsolete concept based on obsolete religious requirements that were thought to increase the quality of society.
What ever you do in life, love marriage player etc.. just make sure you have money. Cause capitalism is your new god. and it it 1000000X times more powerful than your last one.
Marriage = and obsolete concept based on obsolete religious requirements that were thought to increase the quality of society.
What ever you do in life, love marriage player etc.. just make sure you have money. Cause capitalism is your new god. and it it 1000000X times more powerful than your last one.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.