Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Got it. I know sometimes I can go a little off the rails so to speak as well lol. Do you guys usually send out PMs saying the following? "Hey, Tenacity, tone it down a bit on X, Y, or Z."People get banned for one reason only: Repeated breaking of the rules after several warnings. At that point we mods discuss the situation for a fairly extended period of time and come to a consensus as to the course of action that will benefit the site and its members. The rules are posted as stickies in most subforums, for those who don't know.
Yes we send out warnings, the mods here are actually very lenient when it comes to bans. You kind of have to try to get banned in my opinion.Got it. I know sometimes I can go a little off the rails so to speak as well lol. Do you guys usually send out PMs saying the following? "Hey, Tenacity, tone it down a bit on X, Y, or Z."
I know like some forums I don't participate on anymore, like the City Data Forum, the moderators will just temp ban you without a warning, without saying what you did wrong, etc. And that forum is very liberal and also very feminist/gynocentric, so of course what I have to say will PISS off the vast majority of people, even the moderators, which I believe leads them to ban people they "disagree" with.