"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why did LiveFreeX get banned?
- Thread starter Die Hard
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
daddymonsterpoodle
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guru1000
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He was pissing on the OP when she created a thread just to describe that her father was ill and likely to pass. I dug into LiveJailed. Subsequently, all his posts were deleted.
Frankly, any person who speaks to another who is grieving in that manner is a low-quality piece of crap. I could only hope his ban is permanent.
speed dawg
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Atom Smasher
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Skyline
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Tenacity
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Got it. I know sometimes I can go a little off the rails so to speak as well lol. Do you guys usually send out PMs saying the following? "Hey, Tenacity, tone it down a bit on X, Y, or Z."
I know like some forums I don't participate on anymore, like the City Data Forum, the moderators will just temp ban you without a warning, without saying what you did wrong, etc. And that forum is very liberal and also very feminist/gynocentric, so of course what I have to say will PISS off the vast majority of people, even the moderators, which I believe leads them to ban people they "disagree" with.
Skyline
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Yes we send out warnings, the mods here are actually very lenient when it comes to bans. You kind of have to try to get banned in my opinion.