Why chicks don't care if other chicks tell them you're a good guy.

[Naughty Ninja]

The reason chicks wouldn't date you nor care if other chicks tell them you're a good guy is because in their minds they feel if you are that much of a "catch" the other chicks wouldn't tell them how good you were. They'd try to keep her away from you and go for you for themselves.

So the next time you think chicks are doing you a favor by telling other chicks what a cool guy you are. Think again. If they really thought you were so "cool" they'd step over their "friends" to get you all for themselves.

 

[Scars]

Agreed, somewhat. Girls telling friends that you're a "nice guy" is a turn off for most of them. I think it's kind of like they're speaking code. "Yeah, James is a nice and sweet guy." aka, I use him and abuse him. He buys me stuff and treats me like a princess. Only date him as a rebound or if you're looking to get back at your ex.. Etc..

Now, "He is such an as$hole.." on the contrary, arouses suspicion and curiosity. Much more effective to be labeled an as$hole than a nice guy.

-Scars

 

[Mike32ct]

True.

But women are also picking up on what is NOT being said. If the guy was good looking and/or had a high powered job ($), that would have been mentioned FIRST.

By not hearing anything about his looks or money and just hearing that he's a "good guy," she will immediately jump to this conclusion: ugly and low paycheck.

When she tries to set you up with a female friend but tells you NOTHING about her except "She's really nice," what comes to mind?

She's fat and/or has three kids.

I know that sounds terrible but that's how people think.

 

[Konada]

Agreed. It works both ways. Likewise if you have nothing interesting to comment about some guy/girl, you'd obviously call them 'nice' regardless.

Nice = I don't find you interesting enough.

 

[nismo-4]

If there's a third party involved (aka the messenger), there's gonna be some skeptical thoughts. A girl that wants you will find a way to get you.

Case closed.

 

[VladPatton]

If there's a third party involved (aka the messenger), there's gonna be some skeptical thoughts. A girl that wants you will find a way to get you.

Case closed.

Agree....get your pu$$y on your own. The messenger is gonna phuck your shyt up before they do any good.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I'm basically not even talking about chicks telling other chicks you're "nice" necessarily. I'm talking about them talking positively of you in general to another chick. In any situation like that the chick will think: "Well if he's so great why aren't YOU going after him and trying to cut me out?" If the same chick hears nothing about you yet SEES her friends fighting each other to get to you...then she becomes much more "interested" in "Who is that guy?" Unless of course you look good looking as hell then it won't matter as even if your game was on the weak end she'd still go for it.

 

[floydb25]

Partially agree. If the woman in question is already attracted, its a huge bonus. But typically she would be the one asking about you - then getting feedback from there. Otherwise, yea, doesnt matter.