You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This isn't something only women do. I left my ex husband in 1994 because he was an abusive drunk who treated me like sh*t. I told him exactly why I left, yet even now, 11 years later, he still can't accept the fact that it's his own fault I divorced him. His entire existence is devoted to obsessively b*tching and complaining about me dumping his a$$ 11 years ago. He's one lonely, pathetic f*ck, that's for sure.Originally posted by Big Bad Wolf
Why can't women accept the fact that they got dumped soley because of themselves? I have left two women (LTR and STR) in the past 6 months because of their attitudes/personalities, yet both of them refuse to accept that fact. It is always, there is someone else, who are you seeing, there has to be someone else you wouldnt leave me otherwise, etc.
Any thoughts?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.