Why can't I get myself to go out more?

[Boschy]

BlahBBlah, I recommend reading a book called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. It puts what you are feeling into perspective. I got over shyness by thinking this: I hate being the centre of attention. But being shy draws attention to me, therefore I will pretend not to be shy. After a while, the pretending became second nature. In other words, I had conditioned myself not to react with terror in social situations.

When you arrived at that party, you should have immediately smiled, opened your arms wide and said loudly, "Hello!! I'm heeere!!!" Then gone to the nearest party people and introduced yourself if you didn't already know them. Also, believe me, most people at the start of a party are a bit tense, especially when they know others are there who they don't know. Bluff is your friend.

 

[BlahBBlah]

Are there any e-books that talk about the same sort of thing? How about an e-book that discusses about how to become better at conversations and establishing connections with other people in general?

 

[Boschy]

There may be some self-help e-books out there. Look at Amazon. Nothing beats real life practice, though. Get out there and jump into the fire. The book I recommended will give you an excellent grounding for how the emotional mind works in neurological terms. For instance, the amygdala is the key piece of grey jelly for most of our extreme emotions and dysfunctions, including chronic shyness.

Nothing wrong with a reading paper book...this one by Goleman should still be in print. Do I have to get the cattle prod out? Sheeze, you may meet a cute girl at the bookshop!!!!

 

[Tha Realnezz]

MAybe cuz you don't have any male freinds or you don't like the ones you have.

I don't like hanging by myself and a couple broads too much either.I've always preffered hanging out with other males,no homo.