"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why can i only be c&f to some women but not all?

sharkbeat

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Why is that I can be c&f and playful to certain girls but not all?
For example, this is a convo I had with one girl:

Her: can I hit you?
Sb: I'm cute. You can't hit me.
Her: I had sushi with alcohol. I feel like punching somebody.
Sb: right. Blame it on the alcohol.
Her. Please please.
Sb: scary.
Her: scary??
Sb: sneaky.
Her: scary!? Sneaky??? Please..hug hug
Sb: ooo punch!
Her: hey!!

All of these happened without me thinking at all. But with other women I just approached, i can't pull this one off.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Well what do you find makes the difference? Describe situations where you might be able to be C&F vs. ones where you wouldn't be.
 

Jitterbug

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Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
 

jophil28

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Jitterbug said:
Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
Yes, most guys overuse C&F and try to make it their new conversational style. Consequently, they rapid fire.

****y/ funny was never designed to replace your natural convo style. It works best as a well placed addition - like salt and pepper on a good steak.
 

Kailex

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I've found that C&F is sensed as irritating when a woman has been drinking.

C&F is meant to break down the shield.
Alcohol already did that for you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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st_99

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it sounds like you just cant be yourself and completely relaxed around better looking girls. Thats kind of what it sounds like you're saying, its common.

If thats what it is, its just simply lack of experience dealing with
hot girls.
 

squirrels

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Self-confidence?

C&F is easy with:

- Girls you aren't trying to hook up with
- Girls that you feel you "deserve" to hook up with

If you try that stuff with a girl that you have on a pedestal above you somewhere in terms of value estimation, you're not going to be able to sell it. It'll look to her like what it is...a "cheap trick".

Stop using "C&F". Be c*cky. Be funny. And if the situation doesn't warrant it...don't.
 
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