Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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why can i only be c&f to some women but not all?

sharkbeat

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Why is that I can be c&f and playful to certain girls but not all?
For example, this is a convo I had with one girl:

Her: can I hit you?
Sb: I'm cute. You can't hit me.
Her: I had sushi with alcohol. I feel like punching somebody.
Sb: right. Blame it on the alcohol.
Her. Please please.
Sb: scary.
Her: scary??
Sb: sneaky.
Her: scary!? Sneaky??? Please..hug hug
Sb: ooo punch!
Her: hey!!

All of these happened without me thinking at all. But with other women I just approached, i can't pull this one off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Well what do you find makes the difference? Describe situations where you might be able to be C&F vs. ones where you wouldn't be.
 

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Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
 

jophil28

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Jitterbug said:
Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
Yes, most guys overuse C&F and try to make it their new conversational style. Consequently, they rapid fire.

****y/ funny was never designed to replace your natural convo style. It works best as a well placed addition - like salt and pepper on a good steak.
 

Kailex

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I've found that C&F is sensed as irritating when a woman has been drinking.

C&F is meant to break down the shield.
Alcohol already did that for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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st_99

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it sounds like you just cant be yourself and completely relaxed around better looking girls. Thats kind of what it sounds like you're saying, its common.

If thats what it is, its just simply lack of experience dealing with
hot girls.
 

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Self-confidence?

C&F is easy with:

- Girls you aren't trying to hook up with
- Girls that you feel you "deserve" to hook up with

If you try that stuff with a girl that you have on a pedestal above you somewhere in terms of value estimation, you're not going to be able to sell it. It'll look to her like what it is...a "cheap trick".

Stop using "C&F". Be c*cky. Be funny. And if the situation doesn't warrant it...don't.
 
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