DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
I have been noticing quite a few threads being started about C&F. If you do a search or even just take a look at new posts you see it all the time lately...
How to convey C&F
Negging and C&F not working
I am coming off to strong and look like an jerk
...the problem with this is that people are TRYING to convey and come across with something that is completely unnatural to them.
C&F works PERFECTLY for me because that is just apart of my OVERALL personality. If i am in a conversation and i use it, it is natural.
now on the other hand if I were in mid conversation and decided to stop speaking and use a silent aggressive type attitude it wouldnt be natural and come off extremely "weird".
IMO, its not a switch that you can cut on and off in the middle of a conversation, thats why some of you seem to be looking like arses.
a couple other things...
If you arent really that comfortable using a little C&F, try to be careful what you are saying to people sometimes until you are comfortable. For example dont make fun of anything that seems personal. Material things are pretty easy to tease people about.
the bottom line is you have to gradually get comfortable. and if its not something that fits your specific personality, then you will always come off weird, a jerk, and anything else that i have been reading in some threads.
your thoughts welcome..
How to convey C&F
Negging and C&F not working
I am coming off to strong and look like an jerk
...the problem with this is that people are TRYING to convey and come across with something that is completely unnatural to them.
C&F works PERFECTLY for me because that is just apart of my OVERALL personality. If i am in a conversation and i use it, it is natural.
now on the other hand if I were in mid conversation and decided to stop speaking and use a silent aggressive type attitude it wouldnt be natural and come off extremely "weird".
IMO, its not a switch that you can cut on and off in the middle of a conversation, thats why some of you seem to be looking like arses.
a couple other things...
If you arent really that comfortable using a little C&F, try to be careful what you are saying to people sometimes until you are comfortable. For example dont make fun of anything that seems personal. Material things are pretty easy to tease people about.
the bottom line is you have to gradually get comfortable. and if its not something that fits your specific personality, then you will always come off weird, a jerk, and anything else that i have been reading in some threads.
your thoughts welcome..
