"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJHoolahoop

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Something happened today that I noticed. I was out with some friends and there was this girl that was with us. She said that she didn't have time to prepare herself better. But someone said something like "yeah cuz otherwise you'd look pretty hot" but said it nervously. And that's when I noticed something. That this guy was trying to come across swuave and C+F, but because he was all nervous about it, it gave off "creep" vibes. And that's when I said "That's ok (girls name), I'll still f_ck you anyways." but i was calm, relaxed and having a good time about it. She of course opened up to me more than the other guy. But this makes sense because I noticed that the same thing used to happen to me when I tried to come off suave. I'd always make things awkward when I said them because I said them nervously. Or with no ballz in other words. But the second I got the balls to say it confidently and smoothly, girls would open up to me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I agree. If your going to use a hard neg like that...you cant be unsure of yourself.....you gotta do it full blown.....by the way your friend used a pretty good neg......he just needed a little more confidence and engergy........thats why I stress being in "talk show host mentality"

~Smooth
 
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definitely

If i acted nervous, I would be arrested after the punchline of 50% of my jokes. :D

I have a disgusting sense of humor :eek:
 
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yes, confidence one of the three pillars you need in your game, its fundimental, without it the other pillars cannot stand, ya follow?
 
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