"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why being nervous sucks

DJHoolahoop

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Something happened today that I noticed. I was out with some friends and there was this girl that was with us. She said that she didn't have time to prepare herself better. But someone said something like "yeah cuz otherwise you'd look pretty hot" but said it nervously. And that's when I noticed something. That this guy was trying to come across swuave and C+F, but because he was all nervous about it, it gave off "creep" vibes. And that's when I said "That's ok (girls name), I'll still f_ck you anyways." but i was calm, relaxed and having a good time about it. She of course opened up to me more than the other guy. But this makes sense because I noticed that the same thing used to happen to me when I tried to come off suave. I'd always make things awkward when I said them because I said them nervously. Or with no ballz in other words. But the second I got the balls to say it confidently and smoothly, girls would open up to me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Smooth Player 056

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I agree. If your going to use a hard neg like that...you cant be unsure of yourself.....you gotta do it full blown.....by the way your friend used a pretty good neg......he just needed a little more confidence and engergy........thats why I stress being in "talk show host mentality"

~Smooth
 

Soprano

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definitely

If i acted nervous, I would be arrested after the punchline of 50% of my jokes. :D

I have a disgusting sense of humor :eek:
 

tristanmon

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yes, confidence one of the three pillars you need in your game, its fundimental, without it the other pillars cannot stand, ya follow?
 
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