Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
^This.Groverz said:The girls I know just get a bit depressed in winter, pretty much seasonal depression. Lack of sunlight lowers your mood and if the girl like warm sunny beaches, scraping snow off of their car in the morning will really kill their moods.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Heh! Isn't it funny how they long for a man around Valentines, which is in the dead of fückin winter!? Amazing. Profit Hallmark and Russel Stover!guytime said:Holy sh--: I've gone from merely curious to outright depressed after asking this question.
But seriously, y'all are probably right. I notice around the winter holidays the bars are almost completely empty: sparsely attended by somber couples and a bunch of ugly and fat girls who still manage to haul their butts out in the cold.
I may literally skip out on the 'scene' from late nov. through jan. Game picks up once the valentine's day ads start to hit.![]()
I'm originally from N.E. and synergy1 nailed this on the head. I now live in Texas and the same even applies here. However it does not get COLD here at all.synergy1 said:The effect of cold is readily seen on men and women around here. As you go to more rural places, the women are in worse shape and generally aren't nice. Incidentally, it seems like the cold weather always spawns more fights at bars too so the disposition is seen in men albiet manifested differently. In general yes, it seems that being stuck inside effects a womens libido. Its very difficult to get dates with women from around here as some of them simply do not want to even venture outside. A physical degradation begets mental degradation and so on. Anyone who has ever been to Maine can see this very easily. The women there are in horrible shape and easily probably some of the ugliest I have ever seen in my entire life. Part of that is enabled by the fact that men are plentiful for these women, but part of it is also due to the cold weather.
When I dated a few girls from California, I tried asking why women were in such good shape and so nice. In short the reason for this type of attitude was that there are a LOT of beautiful women to compete with. Furthermore, when you are outside all days of the year, you are always showing yourself off. To use Maine as an example, you have a much longer winter season, much more lethargy, and virtually no competition since most women are hideous. In both instances, the surrounding lifestyles effect what women look like.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.