You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
^This.Groverz said:The girls I know just get a bit depressed in winter, pretty much seasonal depression. Lack of sunlight lowers your mood and if the girl like warm sunny beaches, scraping snow off of their car in the morning will really kill their moods.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Heh! Isn't it funny how they long for a man around Valentines, which is in the dead of fückin winter!? Amazing. Profit Hallmark and Russel Stover!guytime said:Holy sh--: I've gone from merely curious to outright depressed after asking this question.
But seriously, y'all are probably right. I notice around the winter holidays the bars are almost completely empty: sparsely attended by somber couples and a bunch of ugly and fat girls who still manage to haul their butts out in the cold.
I may literally skip out on the 'scene' from late nov. through jan. Game picks up once the valentine's day ads start to hit.![]()
I'm originally from N.E. and synergy1 nailed this on the head. I now live in Texas and the same even applies here. However it does not get COLD here at all.synergy1 said:The effect of cold is readily seen on men and women around here. As you go to more rural places, the women are in worse shape and generally aren't nice. Incidentally, it seems like the cold weather always spawns more fights at bars too so the disposition is seen in men albiet manifested differently. In general yes, it seems that being stuck inside effects a womens libido. Its very difficult to get dates with women from around here as some of them simply do not want to even venture outside. A physical degradation begets mental degradation and so on. Anyone who has ever been to Maine can see this very easily. The women there are in horrible shape and easily probably some of the ugliest I have ever seen in my entire life. Part of that is enabled by the fact that men are plentiful for these women, but part of it is also due to the cold weather.
When I dated a few girls from California, I tried asking why women were in such good shape and so nice. In short the reason for this type of attitude was that there are a LOT of beautiful women to compete with. Furthermore, when you are outside all days of the year, you are always showing yourself off. To use Maine as an example, you have a much longer winter season, much more lethargy, and virtually no competition since most women are hideous. In both instances, the surrounding lifestyles effect what women look like.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.