"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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why are older women chasing me?

glass half full

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Seems lately I'm being approached by women who have five or more years on me (I'm 52).
I'm looking back, not forward. Even online! I can just imagine how that would be in another five years...I'm getting concerned, hell more like worried. My friend's gf tried fixing me up with a 60 year old recently.

My ex was seven years my junior, and she hardly put out. Would I reasonably expect the opposite from the other direction? What am I doing wrong? Or are things really that fvcked up these days?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sodbuster

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Yes, things are that fvcked up. I look young for my age and women who looked like my 80 year old mother were hitting on me thinking they "deserved" me. Too much "you go girl" and not enough "look in the d@mn mirror" to see if he's going to be interested.
 

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Seems lately I'm being approached by women who have five or more years on me (I'm 52).
I'm looking back, not forward. Even online! I can just imagine how that would be in another five years...I'm getting concerned, hell more like worried. My friend's gf tried fixing me up with a 60 year old recently.

My ex was seven years my junior, and she hardly put out. Would I reasonably expect the opposite from the other direction? What am I doing wrong? Or are things really that fvcked up these days?

No reason to worry about it. It either means you are viewed as cougar bait or something in style, vibe, is projecting immense maturity.

You know you'd like a younger woman so when older are sniffing just be flattered and say no thank you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SkrooU

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I think since women are more independent now their true colors are showing more. They, just like us men, are attracted to health and youth. The same thing has been happening to me. Women about 40-45 are all over me, especially online. I've actually been noticing they're starting to seem attractive to me too now so it's all good. My options seem greater now than before because of all this.
 

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Some men go for younger women. Likewise some women go for younger men. It's all personal preference.
Female teachers going for their male students is proof of that.
The only problem as I see it is when you're 45 she could be pushing an extremely dried up 65. Think ahead if you're thinking about getting with an older woman.…
 
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@sodbuster is that the Filipino girl you met through your mate? I plated a Filipino girl in 2015 she seemed like a really decent chick. Unfortunately didn't have the visa.

Yeah I have the same high quality problem. I give her a good pounding that night and then in the morning
her little hand comes wandering over. Chinese girls love tea I m wondering if a little bromide in the tea might help
 

glass half full

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Well I feel a little better now...been exposed to younger ones happy to see me...Went to a Gentleman's club a couple of weeks ago. These girls were sweeping me off my feet. My friend just split up with his ex and we thought it would be good to get him in there. But I was like a kid in a candy store, best time of my fvcking life!! He was having trouble, bytch was still on his mind, whereas I've had time to heal.

I've never had so much fun. I went to one of those places in my 20s, wasn't near as fun as lately. It's nice to have women nude, being friendly as hell and enjoying themselves at it too for my money, verses having a ***** being a ***** for my money at home and not getting anything but bs and grief for all my troubles. Nice to know women have that ability lol!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I wouldn't kind older women chasing me. But I work in the kitchen and I'm trying to get a white collar job. Still trying, not getting.

If I could just succeed here, I'd actually have a girlfriend.
 
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