She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Because on average, men have lower standards. A female 4 in looks can get sex much easier than a male 6 in looks. Also, women like sex, but probably don't have as strong a drive for it as men.Love<3 said:I'm not saying that women don't like sex. But it seems like men are always so pushy, desperate, and needy for sex...anyone else noticed this?
How often do you see women begging men for sex?
Zion said:Because very few men in this day and age know how to be attractive. The vast majority are your typical white knights / nice guys. They fall into a downward spiral of neediness and immediately over-invest whenever a female gives them a shred of attention. She gets repulsed, they fall deeper, rinse and repeat. They starve. Desperation is a natural consequence.
Yes "she"'s turning this place into Ask Men.mangotot said:OP can you stop posting here, all you doing is antagonising people.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Because that's the only thing you are good for, so we want to make sure we are not wasting our time.Love<3 said:But it seems like men are always so pushy, desperate, and needy for sex...
Instead, you beg and cry for attention. And if we play our cards right, you will beg for our c0cks too.Love<3 said:How often do you see women begging men for sex?
This 100%.Mike32ct said:Because on average, men have lower standards. A female 4 in looks can get sex much easier than a male 6 in looks. Also, women like sex, but probably don't have as strong a drive for it as men.
I know you oppose sex before marriage Love<3, but most Western women use it as a bait and switch scam. They will act like they are obsessed with sex and F their boyfriends very regularly. After she gets marriage and/or kids or whatever she wants, she "loses interest" in sex. Then she acts "insulted" that he wants it from her regularly lol. She may never have been that attracted to him and desiring of sex. She just used it as "bait" to get what she wants.
Love<3 said:I'm not saying that women don't like sex. But it seems like men are always so pushy, desperate, and needy for sex...anyone else noticed this?
How often do you see women begging men for sex?
^^What he said :yes:Ruler said:Let me ask you this: Why are women so desperate for attention?
Your kind loves it. You play weak men like pullets and get what you want, whether you do or do not give them sex. But strong men, like most informed guys here, couldnt give less than a single fvck about you or what you can give us. We focus on outselves and if women come along, so be it. If they don't? I can jerk one off and get back to my life and work. I really don't need a woman.
I want to tell you this is the last post of yours I will be responding to. And I advise every other guy here to not respond as well. She wants attention like every other women and is getting it. STOP REPLYING! It's pathetic and downright disrespectful of you to be hijacking the forum like this. Please, just leave and go to christian mingle so you can find a man who's willing to wait for marriage.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You are right....it's considered culturally weird if a guy doesn't have sex and people label him as a loserTenacity said:A couple of reasons:
1.) Men have been conditioned and programmed to think that obtaining sex is an accomplishment. No man wants to be a loser, right? So obtaining sex is one of the ways a man validates himself.
2.) Men have been conditioned and programmed to seek female approval. A man could have just cured cancer, but if a chick doesn't acknowledge him for it (through a kiss, some a.ss, some head, etc) then the man still internally feels as though he didn't really "do" anything.
3.) The market has a whole is a bad market for Men. Women have all of the power in terms of social, political and cultural power which even though Men as a whole still trump women financially....Women are still promoted as something that is "worth" investing in.
4.) Finally, because most Men refuse to just buy Escorts. So because the guy is horny, he has to go out and try to "get it" from a chick that makes him jump through more hoops than a damn circus animal.
It's part biological urge, part social status.Tenacity said:1.) Men have been conditioned and programmed to think that obtaining sex is an accomplishment. No man wants to be a loser, right? So obtaining sex is one of the ways a man validates himself.
We don't WANT commitment we need commitment/marriage for a healthy societyjurry said:Why are women so desperate for commitment?
Women dont beg men for sex because its easy to get, men dont beg women for commitment (hopefully) because its easy to get.
Two entirely different biological urges at work here. Seems to be a paradox of the human species, but I suppose it serves the purpose of creating the strongest next generation and filtering out the weak (and ugly?).
You need commitment so someone can support you and for your genes to survive before you are at EGG ZERO.Love<3 said:We don't WANT commitment we need commitment/marriage for a healthy society
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.