Why are girls so repulsed by me

[JohnChops]

Girls just ignore me. All my friends have a gf or a slam while I just have to sit there and watch.

2/10 would bang.

 

[JohnChops]

You say you're ugly. What specifically makes you ugly? Be accurate and specific.

You'd be amazed how many guys have gone from ugly to good looking to women. There ARE things you can do, especially because a sense of style trumps innate looks.

You should make a thread about such tips.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Im sick of it.

Try reading "The Flow" by Dan Bacon

 

[nmartinez12443]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=217941

QUOTE=JohnChops]You should make a thread about such tips.[/QUOTE]

If you do all these things in the link above you will improve your looks rapidly quickly.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Dan Bacon of the Modern can offer great insight

 

[Maximus Rex]

He Looks Like a Regular Dude to Ole Rex

Can you post a pic of yourself?

Post Your Pic http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208384&page=3 Post 52


Dhoulmagus issue is severe lack of inner game.

I don't get any IOIs

Yes, you do. You just don't recognize them.

Girls just ignore me. All my friends have a gf or a slam while I just have to sit there and watch.

When thunder_god was in New York, he told your boy the same damn thing, to which good ole Rex said, "Are your boys girls even hot?" To which ole Thor had no reply, so "O.M.R." is going to ask you the same thing, are your friends girlfriends even hot?

 

[backbreaker]

i looked at your Picture,, you're not ugly. You have what I call the big black guy problem lol


i used to have a friend, brad who was 6'2, and chizzled. when we went out he would always get any black chick he wanted. he had the thug look thing going for him though he was far from it once you got to know him, he just liked to portray the look and blck chicks loved the tall rock hard thug look.


however, he never really got any footing with white women. i was 5'8, about 155 and i dated pretty much exclusively white women at this time.


looking at your pic you are about, 6'1-6'2, 200-220 pounds. you're in pretty good shape but i can see how a owman who isn't used to that look can be intimated by someone your size.


and your other problem is that you aren't thug enough to really hit it with the black chicks. so you are really a lot like me in the sense you're stuck lol.


i was 185-190 and i was pretty buit when i first got reallyo heavy into weight lifting but i was not having success with women. when i got to about 170-175 it skyrocketed.


you can work around being black and talk to chicks. you can't work around being BiG and black and trying to talk to chick slol. And you're not even really BIG, but i mean, a 6'2 210 pound black guy trying to talk to a 5'6 120 pound whtie chick,l in the south where all these racial ideas are already existing and she's going to be more concerned about making sure there are other people around, then she's going to be concerned about checking you out. tha'ts just how it is.


i'd lose about 20-30 pounds, you have to be inevitable. I can approach white women because i'm not intimating lol. i'm 5'8 and about 165. i'm a built 165 but still i'm small lol.


anyway just a thought from left field.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

You've had one night stands before I would disagree that girls are repulsed by you

 

[No.Danny]

Stop being so negative. How can you expect to be liked if you don't like yourself?

 

[Dhoulmagus]

i looked at your Picture,, you're not ugly. You have what I call the big black guy problem lol


i used to have a friend, brad who was 6'2, and chizzled. when we went out he would always get any black chick he wanted. he had the thug look thing going for him though he was far from it once you got to know him, he just liked to portray the look and blck chicks loved the tall rock hard thug look.


however, he never really got any footing with white women. i was 5'8, about 155 and i dated pretty much exclusively white women at this time.


looking at your pic you are about, 6'1-6'2, 200-220 pounds. you're in pretty good shape but i can see how a owman who isn't used to that look can be intimated by someone your size.


and your other problem is that you aren't thug enough to really hit it with the black chicks. so you are really a lot like me in the sense you're stuck lol.


i was 185-190 and i was pretty buit when i first got reallyo heavy into weight lifting but i was not having success with women. when i got to about 170-175 it skyrocketed.


you can work around being black and talk to chicks. you can't work around being BiG and black and trying to talk to chick slol. And you're not even really BIG, but i mean, a 6'2 210 pound black guy trying to talk to a 5'6 120 pound whtie chick,l in the south where all these racial ideas are already existing and she's going to be more concerned about making sure there are other people around, then she's going to be concerned about checking you out. tha'ts just how it is.


i'd lose about 20-30 pounds, you have to be inevitable. I can approach white women because i'm not intimating lol. i'm 5'8 and about 165. i'm a built 165 but still i'm small lol.


anyway just a thought from left field.

I'm like 185 lol. I was like 160 when I came to college, but I never got any girls lol. I see a lot of fat wannabe redneck guys with dimes here, so I have gotten the impression physique really doesn't matter.

 

[Atom Smasher]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with your looks. Your problem is a lack of confidence. You probably have few to zero positive reference experiences and you're therefore stuck in a negative feedback loop.

Maximus is correct... You DO get IOI's, but they are in fact invisible to you. I know, because the same was the case for me a while ago.

You need to step back from the game, relax, and work on your social skills by chatting up the people you see in your day-to-day. Shift from doing it as an exercise to really making an effort to care about the person you're chatting with. Amazing things happen to your social skills and confidence when you do this.

Put yourself out there by chatting up men and women alike, and think about conveying a controlled, masculine reserve when you do so.

You have the raw materials. You simply haven't figured out how to combine them together and focus them into a cohesive force. All it takes it practice and constant honing.

Convey respect for others. Portray yourself as a refined man of class, yet still with a sense of humor and an easy manner.

These are just some things off the top of my head; things that I did to get myself out of the same situation you're describing.

I had lots of IOIs from girls but was absolutely clueless about their existence and would have been clueless in terms of what to do with those IOIs.

Your main problem can be distilled down to neediness.

The cure: YOU provide a good time and positive reinforcement to others.

In case you didn't get that... Take on full responsibility for providing positive experiences to others, even if it's a simple hello to an old lady. Soon you will transfer that to friends and then to women.

I went from having zero confidence with women about 6 or 7 years ago to having absolute, raw confidence. I would have been considered a hopeless case by anyone who saw me (hopeless with women, that is).

Now I TAKE POSESSION of every interaction. Each one is mine to do whatever I will with. I own them, and I mold them like clay.

This quantum leap in confidence has delivered an added, unforeseen bonus... My looks have drastically improved. I look better now than I did 20 years ago. It's all about tiny steps, and those tiny steps draw compound interest as you collect them into your pile of positive reference experiences. That pile reaches critical mass and you wake up to find you're a different, improved and evolved man. The success is in the trying, in the doing. It is not in the individual result of any isolated interaction. Work the system you set up for yourself and success is guaranteed in due time.

 

[marmel75]

Dude, I don't see how you think women are repulsed by you, you are actually a pretty decent looking guy. If you started working out and lost some of the pudginess around your face, you would probably be a really good looking guy.

Plus you are tall, which automatically gives you an advantage over short guys that are on the same looks level as you. If you had some confidence in yourself and worked on your inner game, you would probably do pretty well for yourself...

 

[Maximus Rex]

Change Your Wardrobe

Dhoulmagus, how do you dress when you go out?

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Dhoulmagus, how do you dress when you go out?

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7rytm4lfi1rbz6m5o1_500.jpg

Usually like this. Dang High schoolers and geeds have been copying us though.

 

[VikingKing]

Because you're repulsed by yourself. How can some one else find you attractive if you can't even find your self attractive?

Its easier said than done, but its all up to you.