"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nebula

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Maybe you guys can help. I dont like misleading girls. most of the time I look for one Im really interested in and date her. now I dont mind casual sex at all, but I feel like a total jerk when I just date a girl for sex, because I can tell theyre interested in something more. at the same time I dont want to say anything upfront because that will make me look like an ass.

it appears ive reached an impasse.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude my guess is that you have a problem with assertiveness. You have to believe you have the right to ask for what you want, otherwise you're going to resent employers, wives, etc. My best advice is to find out how to become more assertive.
 
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Nebula said:
Maybe you guys can help. I dont like misleading girls. most of the time I look for one Im really interested in and date her. now I dont mind casual sex at all, but I feel like a total jerk when I just date a girl for sex, because I can tell theyre interested in something more. at the same time I dont want to say anything upfront because that will make me look like an ass.

it appears ive reached an impasse.
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Don't worry about it, keep at the casual sex thing. You'll get used to it and become a moral vacuum in no time at all.

.....But seriously, don't overanalyse yourself or your situations, just accept them, take things as they come and deal with each scenario in the best way you know how.
 
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If you care so much just be upfront with the girl from the start and say something like:

"I would really like to just keep this casual as im not a fan of serious relationships and would like to just have fun while im young blah blah"
 
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I feel ya, nebula, I'm in the same boat.
19 years of being a painfully polite, selfless and philanthropic Nice Guy refused to be cancelled out by 6 months or so of attmepted to become a DJ.
I just feel like such a morally bankrupt scumbag when I pull the "semi-jerk" routine and deliberately aim for casual sex when I know they want a relationship. I get horrible guilt complexes.

(As a side note, I haven't actually got as far as sex yet)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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