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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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Why am I feeling so tired and losing weight?

Tomo

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With the end of study I've hit the gym hard. My program essentially is 1 day upper and next day lower then a rest and repeat. Throughout, I'm lifting my max without losing form. Nutrition wise, I'm eating A LOT of calories - avoiding junk food but although I let myself have the occasional treat.

Yet I am feeling very tired all the time and get myself a mid afternoon sleep too. Furthermore I'm still sneaking in the odd sesh of sporting hobbies that are cardio based.

I suspect the weight I've lost is water weight but over a week I ended up losing 4kgs (and I'm actually relatively lean) yet it is this fatigue feeling that gets me post gym.

Anyone experienced this in the past and have a bit of know how? Or do I need to just suck it up, grab a cup of coffee and get on with my day? Is the 'bulk'ing phase of gym work as this is suppose to be?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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How long have you been "lifting your max" each session?

You cannot logistically continue to do this for more than 8-12 weeks without some type of deload or you risk frying your central nervous system and causing the problems you are describing, aka overtraining symptoms...

Try backing the weight down for a few weeks to let your body rest
 

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If you do two on one off don't lift your max every workout. Make the first two workouts heavy and high weight, second two workouts less weight, maybe more volume. As marmel said you will burn yourself out. Two on and one off is intense by itself, if you are lifting super heavy all the time it is only going to hurt you. Ether ways listen to your body. There is a difference between being lazy and having fatigue, if you have fatigue you definitely need to cut back somewhere.
 
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