Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When you say he was "roughing up" your cousin's teenagers, what do you mean? Like was he was physically attacking them? Because you go on to say he walked past them, as if nothing really happened.RangerMIke said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The way I read the story, this was a STRANGER who entered the house hopped up on drugs. Maybe I'm wrong about that, and if so maybe the OP can clear it up. But I know of several similar stories in the last few years in my experience. Some psychotic, drugged up (or both) screwball entering someone's house, standing on someone's porch, going door to door, or following people down the street. Hasn't happened to me, fortunately, but it has happened to friends of mine.Yewki said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
He's probably an actual wolf IRL and is too busy leading his pack through the woods on an epic hunt to check his computer... alpha as f*ckzekko said:Maybe he's so alpha he's in jail. Or is too busy having sex to get onto the computer
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
http://www.writeups.org/img/fiche/5636c.jpgYewki said:
