"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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whoa! might be a daddy.

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Possibly.. Yeah thats right, I get drunk and have unprotected sex.:rockon:

Well I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now.. we've had our ups and downs. But this time gentlemen, I think I've done it..

Shes been late on her period for a week and a half now.. and shes gonna take a test tomorrow to find out.

Wish me luck boys! :woo:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you sound more excited than dismayed

so best of luck, and hope everything turns out the way you want mate
 

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I must be getting old, because I am actually happy for you. Before the fear-mongers take over your thread, let me say that most babies are not planned. I wasn't. My dad was your age when he had me. I doubt he was thrilled at the time, but now he gets a free lawyer and I doubt he would have it any other way. Also, a guy I knew in high school knocked up the head cheerleader when they were 15 and 16. He's now a cpa living in a giant lakefront house with his still-hot wife. Tenn pregnancy is not the end of the world.
 

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Capt.Jack Sparrow said:
Possibly.. Yeah thats right, I get drunk and have unprotected sex.:rockon:

Well I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now.. we've had our ups and downs. But this time gentlemen, I think I've done it..

Shes been late on her period for a week and a half now.. and shes gonna take a test tomorrow to find out.

Wish me luck boys! :woo:
Congrats bro...just make sure this is the right decision for you...make sure you are emotionally and financially ready and responsible enough for a child, thats a fvck load of responsibility and work, you are still just 19.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good luck and I hope everything works out with you and your gf. What do you and her think of the possibility of having a child together?
 

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Good luck, I hope it all works out for you. How does your girlfriend feel about it btw?

Having kids when you are younger is not the worst experience. My mother had 4 kids by the time she was 24, she was young enough to work it all off and now she is 40 with her youngest at 16. She looks fantastic, she has gone through bringing her children up and is still young enough to go out and have a good time.

So, congrats :)
 

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Congratulations bro. It sounds like it's with someone you like and know well. I was giving a lecture on this the other day to class and telling them how I might be interested in having a kid, or none at all would be cool too.
 

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Sorry, but having a kid while you are still a kid is NOT a good idea, depite the sugar-coating here.

It is just not a good idea... forget your plans, be ready for life in a cubicle.

You had to hear it from somebody....

Dietzcoi
 

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Had many pregnancy scares here. Keep us posted and best wishes either way!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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has she taken a test?
i think that is where you should start.
ps. the brand name of the test doesn't matter, they all work the same.
 

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Capt.Jack Sparrow said:
Shes been late on her period for a week and a half now.. and shes gonna take a test tomorrow to find out.

Wish me luck boys! :woo:
19 out of 20 scares never pan out. An unnecessary thread.
 

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Alright im back on.. she took the test and...
















Shes not pregnant! I was kinda hoping she would be buts its alright, as many of you said im too young too have one.. but than again I wouldn't mind being a daddy! Shes a great gal and indeed I do love her. We both agreed it'd be better if it were in a year or so to get that goin on.



3countriesPlan said:
Good luck and I hope everything works out with you and your gf. What do you and her think of the possibility of having a child together?
I thought it would be awesome. She was skeptical about it, mainly scared about what her parents would say.
 

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why dont' you two get married first and sort out your life

set up your life, get a career going, a mortgage

go on a couple of nice overseas trips

then have a baby

you both are still very young

i know what you're feeling. i would love nothign more than to have a baby with my girlfriend too, we both love each other very much

but our lives just aren't in order yet
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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dietzcoi said:
Sorry, but having a kid while you are still a kid is NOT a good idea, depite the sugar-coating here.

It is just not a good idea... forget your plans, be ready for life in a cubicle.

You had to hear it from somebody....

Dietzcoi
Thank you for your realist view. Despite all the heavily biased opinion, no one wants to knock up a girl between the ages of 17-23...ish. My friend is having a kid...cause his b*tch stopped taking birth control and didnt tell him. Girls WILL trap your ass as a means of staying together...one must adore the illogical nature of the female species.
 

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surely she didn't get pregnant on purpose so she could trap him

you exaggerate my dear sir
 

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lordson said:
surely she didn't get pregnant on purpose so she could trap him

you exaggerate my dear sir
Ummm, im pretty sure you dont know the situation so dont tell me that im exaggerating, my good sir.
 
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