"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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who uses the 'L word'?

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i've been with this girl for almost 2 months (really more like 3 or 4 cuz we started "talking" before that) but it's going amazing. we have a lot in common, and the stuff we don't have in common, we're opposites so we complement each other quite nicely. seriously this is the first time i've ever had anything worthwhile with a girl. anyway, the point is, who here says "I love you" to their girlfriend? i was just wondering what yall think. cuz i really think it'll go over well and i might actually mean it this time; i'm just curious about the general feeling towards saying it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't you dare say it!....let alone think about it. She will express it too you if shes interested by that i mean (kino,and body language). Keep in mind that the word "love" nowadays is a very cheap word. I remeber the first time i said it I though It was going to feel like heaven to both of our ears, but instead I got a door slam shut on my fantasy, and reality hit me.
 
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well really dude me and my gf have only been going out for a little over a month and i'll tell i'm not a dj, i don't think i'm anywhere close yet, but things have been going good with me and my gf and we say it, if i was u i wouldn't bring it up with her or mention it, let her do that, and then don't be the one to say it first when u guys do start saying it and don't over do it
 
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ExcelNPrevail said:
... I remeber the first time i said it I though It was going to feel like heaven to both of our ears, but instead I got a door slam shut on my fantasy, and reality hit me.
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elaborate please. did this take place because of afc behavior or what? honestly i've gamed her to the point of getting texts periodically through the day saying "you rock" "you're amazing" "you're perfect" and any variation of this sort of thing
 
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